Happiness and success in all endeavors. How to succeed in everything: effective and working ways. Sincerely, Governor of the Kemerovo Region A. Tuleev

It often seems to us that success is about someone else, and not at all about us. successful women marry great men, have healthy kids, get good jobs, make tons of money. Apparently, they are just born lucky, and nothing can be done about it. But it's not!

Secrets of success in everything

“If you really want to, you can fly into space,” these are the words of a famous song. Success is based on inner intention. This is not just a burning desire or a thoughtful goal - it is deeper. Desires and goals are controlled by the mind, but emotions and intentions are controlled by the soul.

It's good when there is a goal and a desire - this is the first step to success (many do not even dare to take it, believing that it is a shame to wish for success). But from lying on the couch, dreaming of success, you need to move on to action - this is the second secret to achieving success in everything. You must be prepared to take steps in the direction you have chosen.

You must want to achieve the goal in order for your desire to turn into an intention. This is where personality barriers often arise. Most people are comfortable living the way they live. Deep down, they like to be lazy, to do nothing, because success is not only achievements, wealth and other pleasant things. Success is hard work, endless generation of ideas, failures on the way to their implementation, responsibility and many other efforts that these people do not want to undertake.

Hard work is another secret to success in everything. Think of famous successful people: Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison - they all spent thousands of hours making their dreams come true. Hard painstaking work from early morning until late at night led them to this, and by no means daydreaming and lying on the couch. Of course, sometimes it was hard for them, but they overcame all obstacles thanks to the energy that their goal gave them. They saw it in perspective, were not afraid to rework it.

An important thing that underlies any successful endeavor is confidence in yourself and your goal. The universe is arranged according to the principle of saving energy and resources, and luck is the living embodiment of this idea.

But reason creates obstacles, contradictions, and perceives any deviation from the planned plan as the collapse of all hopes and gives a signal for surrender. The universe is limitless in its possibilities, and anything can happen - even a million in your bank account. Not even so - you will have it, if you are sure of it, you will begin to take steps in the right direction.

What is success for you? Wealth, family, love, friendship, career, fame - all these things are more concrete than abstract success. This should be your goal - specific and positive. First, you must imagine it in all details, without thinking about how to achieve it. Then think about how you are in this future: strong, courageous, educated, cunning or analytical. These qualities you need to develop in the present in order to succeed. Finally, think about what could help you achieve your goal. The journey of a thousand steps begins with the first, so start at least a small thing that will bring you closer to the goal.

Go to study. To succeed in everything, you need a constant influx of knowledge. So read on. If you don't like reading, go to courses or lectures. If you don't like going to courses or lectures, travel. If you can not travel - communicate with different people. Look for any information on your topic, absorb it every second of your free time. There is never enough knowledge, and you never know what will be useful and what will not. Do not spare money on your education, this is the only competent and effective investment.

Become the author of your life. What is the difference between the lucky ones and the losers? The fact that they themselves create their own lives, not reconciling themselves with fate or other external circumstances. When there is an obstacle in their life, they ask themselves two questions: how and why did I do it? Try it. It will be difficult at first, but soon it will become a habit, and you will not notice how you begin to reap the first fruits of your success. Author's position in relation to life, it does not allow long mournful explanations why something does not work out for you - you just have to find a way to overcome the obstacle.

How to be successful in your personal life

The strategy for finding happiness in your personal life can be aggressively assertive, or it can be soft, meek, that is, purely feminine.

In many ways, all problems in relations with men are connected with femininity, or rather, with its lack. You simply do not feel your female part, do not perceive yourself as a woman. This is manifested in such character traits as perseverance, rigidity, aggressiveness, rationality in actions, thoughts and other masculine qualities. Men simply do not see you as a woman and therefore do not want to establish a relationship.

Develop femininity. There are a lot of courses and schools dedicated to strengthening your female part. You can observe the one who is a model of femininity for you, and try to adopt her behavior: facial expressions, gestures, postures, gait. See what her actions are most “catching” men, try to do the same. How do you feel? If it's comfortable, then femininity for you is a matter of training. If not, then you should think: what prevents you from being feminine? Perhaps the point is in some attitudes that you learned in childhood, for example, “all girls are fools” or “flirting is stupid or unworthy.” Sometimes it is enough to discover such an idea and realize its inconsistency with reality, and sometimes the help of a psychologist is required.

Often, self-doubt becomes the key to failure in personal life. It happens that a woman comes to see a psychologist - she is smart, beautiful, cooks well - and she does not develop relationships with men. She does not believe that she is worthy of a man. Work on yourself in this case may take some time, because it is impossible to radically change a person’s personality in an instant.

But there is a solution: do what you are good at. Achieve small intermediate successes - they are not so noticeable, but they can give you strength and self-confidence. Come up with, or rather, find your zest. For example, you have visited different parts of the world or you know everything about the construction of a tram. Awareness of this will help you believe in your own attractiveness, and there the interest from men is just around the corner.

Many women are prevented from continuing to communicate with men by traumatic past experiences. For example, if the previous gentleman deceived you, had an affair with your girlfriend. Or for several years he resisted building a serious relationship, and then ran away to his mother. In such situations, a woman thinks: “All men are their own ...” and puts an end to her personal life. But this is wrong! You need to understand the reasons for failures on the love front: it is possible that you were just unlucky, and you need to pay attention to examples of successful relationships.

However, it happens that a woman herself subconsciously chooses "the wrong men." She, of course, likes the family idyll of her friend Masha, but for some reason she herself “bites” on handsome men without a penny in her pocket and intelligible plans for the future. Here you need to realize the problem and understand what you want: family happiness, Latin American passions, insipid stability or something else. And choose such men.

Sometimes failures in personal life are connected with the fact that there is a fear of a serious relationship. And every time things start to go to them, you back down, look for flaws in your partner and proudly burn all bridges. A long-term relationship with a man is not only happiness. This is also responsibility, changes in life, the ability to compromise, emotionally invest in communication. Not everyone wants it, but someone is afraid. Then awareness is again the key to success. Only by realizing how you purposefully break relationships can you change your life for the better. Accept difficulties as inevitable and find a way to cope with them.

Understanding male nature is another important condition for success in your personal life. You can not approach men the same way as women - they are different. They have a different mindset, life priorities, they react differently to everything that happens to them. Men are hunters by nature, they like the process of wooing and conquering a woman. Therefore, girls who have “looking for a partner” written on their foreheads may have problems on the love front due to availability!

Or let's take another example. A woman tells her partner a story about an evil boss, and instead of feeling sorry for her, he begins to give some advice. Men are so arranged that they try to immediately find a solution to the problem. It is not customary for them to support, sympathize with each other. The result of such a contradiction between the sexes is alienation or rupture of relations in the near future. The way out is in the ability to understand and feel each other. Then success in your personal life will not be long in coming.

How to Succeed at Work

The status of a beloved wife is far from being the limit of all dreams. Since the middle of the twentieth century, we have the same rights as men. And the right to work, building a career too. Career growth has long been considered a male privilege, and aggressively assertive men's style behavior is appropriate in this matter. But you can combine it with a purely female ability to establish contacts, and then you will have no equal in the professional field.

The secret of career success is the ability to interact with other people. In any work, properly organized communication is up to ninety percent effective. You just have to be able to find mutual language with different people: noisy, quiet, smart, stupid, quick-tempered, calm. Of course, if professional self-realization is important to you. This skill is based on understanding, acceptance of other people as they are, and this is already a certain personal maturity.

Intolerance arouses in us condemnation, which breaks the contact. Here the question arises of the effectiveness of communication: you can scold, reject the behavior of another person, but then what can you get from him? Any interaction is aimed at achieving some goal, and if you cannot get along with a partner, failure and failure await you as a result. Not the most joyful prospect! Communication skills can be developed psychological trainings However, life itself provides the most interesting material for learning.

Think about what position will become a symbol of success for you. What do you need to get it? Often this turns out to be a lack of experience and some kind of knowledge, skills, and abilities. Start learning and at the same time get the work experience you need. Statistics show that HR managers give more preference to people who have tried to do something in practice than to those who studied it at the institute. There is no need to shun the positions of assistants, assistants - this is an opportunity to become more competent and acquire the right connections.

Now the employer is trying to buy a multifunctional specialist for his money, for example, an HR manager with education in both psychology and economics. Such personnel are especially appreciated, because they can understand all the intricacies of the workflow.

For the sake of career success, you have to give up something. For example, from the opportunity to leave work at exactly six - those who worked a lot overtime reach real heights in the profession. In the process career development you will most likely have to go towards your goal, despite the rejection and condemnation from the outside. In our country, active energetic people are not very fond of, especially when they achieve success. Therefore, you will have to put up with sidelong glances in your address - they will be inevitable companions of success.

Make a plan before you start doing anything. This is not a waste of time, but an attempt to structure your activities. There is a well-known metaphor: "an elephant can be eaten in pieces." Its essence boils down to the fact that when you break one big complex case into many small ones, then achieving the final goal is easier for you. Your plan should be detailed and understandable - you need to prescribe intermediate tasks and goals, their sequence, and deadlines for their implementation. It also disciplines, because when you set limits for yourself, you can no longer be lazy with the ease that you had before the plan was made.
Use swot analysis. It is an analysis of a problem, situation or project. It includes strong weak sides object. This is another way of structuring a problem to get it detailed description and come out to solve it.
Go towards other people, provide them with small services. it good way make the necessary connections. Usually people do not forget the favors done to them by others, they want to thank them in the future. And who knows when and in what form you will need someone's help?
Ability to receive feedback. Of course, each of us likes to listen to flattering reviews about ourselves. They bring undeniable benefits - increase our self-esteem, add self-confidence. Compliments and praises need to be able to accept correctly - you should not deny them and translate everything into a joke. On the contrary, you need to hear what the person says good about you, thank him for the feedback. But negative reviews of your work are even more helpful than positive ones. This is valuable information, and it can be given to you just like that. Therefore, when someone criticizes your work, do not be offended by him or yourself. It is better to listen carefully to what he says, and make a list of growth points for yourself.
Keep the promises you make. A fulfilled promise will add bonuses to your karma and bring you some kind of fruit in the future. Therefore, do not take on what you cannot do, no matter how embarrassing you may be, because it will be worse later when you do not live up to the natural expectations of this person. There are situations when it is impossible to fulfill the promise, then it is your duty to warn about this in advance, to explain why everything failed this time.
Find your mentor. Remember industrial practice at University? It is one thing when they explain something to you in theory, and quite another when you learn something in practice, and under the strict guidance of a person who can give you high-quality feedback. Although it happens differently when you just learn from someone whose success is an example for you. Such a person knows how to go from an idea to an achieved goal, and what pitfalls await you.
Look for fresh ideas. You should not sit and wait for something good to fall on your head - you have to get off the couch yourself, find it, and if it doesn’t work out, then do it yourself. The likelihood of finding something worthwhile increases if you are constantly alert on the Internet, arrange brainstorming, read autobiographies famous people, at worst.

How to reach your goal quickly

People who know how to achieve their goal claim that to achieve it you need:

Perseverance.
Diligence.
Optimism.
Self confidence.
Persistence.
Positive thinking.

Not all of us have all these qualities. All of them help in building a career and in personal life. However, it is enough to have at least two of them, so that later, realizing that the goal is real, develop the rest in yourself. It is only necessary to realize that nothing is impossible, if we set ourselves some kind of goal, then we have the opportunity to achieve it.

One of the conditions for achieving goals is to erase from your head the memories of the past, regrets about something that was not done before. It is impossible to go back to the past and change something. And memories that evoke feelings take away from us the strength that is sorely needed when we, achieving success, are determined to hold on to the end.

The next condition for successful pursuit of your goals is to stop getting upset over trifles, whining, complaining about the lack of a career or success in your personal life, believing that neither one nor the other comes out. If something doesn’t work out for us, it means that the time has come to comprehend new knowledge or skills.

The Benefits of Fear

Oddly enough, but fear - effective remedy to perform actions equivalent to feats. He opens up sources of power in us that we didn't even know existed. Let's remember known history about a mother who was able to move and hold a multi-ton truck, saving her child from death. What gave a fragile woman the opportunity to lift an unimaginable weight? Fear for my son. And what allows a thin boy to fight back when he is attacked by a drunken company? Fear for your life. Finally, what guides another already successful person causing him to tell himself "Succeed again" and move on? The same fear of losing authority and comfort.

Conclusion: if we lack perseverance or self-confidence, we need a “kick” in the form of fear. This is a magical, if not particularly pleasant way to achieve effective results. Each of us in a critical situation can activate forces in ourselves, with the help of which, on the way to the goal, we can simply sweep away all obstacles without even noticing them. If we are looking for ways to achieve success in life, we are ready to get out of the annoying zone of inertia, but we don’t dare to do this, we need to consciously look for motivations for fear.

The purpose of such motivations is to cause fear of inaction, to force a person to perform actions that are atypical for him. Motivations are based on the principle: “I’m scared, I have to do something, because no one will do it better than me!” This is how we create a very powerful stimulus to action, and, having taken some steps under the influence of fear, having won, we eventually gain self-confidence and cease to be afraid of far-fetched difficulties.

Fear can be used as an effective technique to achieve goals. There is one problem: not each of us will consciously seek motivation for it.

To achieve significant life changes, some actions of a global scale are not required. Even small steps can bring results. The meaning of these steps is to change your attitude to life and the way you think. They consist of the following:

We monitor our speech, we try to remove phrases from the lexicon that can destroy our enthusiasm. We replace them with new, positive phrases. It is necessary to exclude from use such expressions as “everything is as always”, “nothing new”, “I can’t do this”, “no one needs this”, “I don’t want anything”, “I have to”. They can paralyze part of the mind, instill in us a sense of hopelessness and personal inadequacy.
We are looking for something in every passing day for which we can thank our fate, every day we express recognition to it for what we have already experienced, for what we have today, even for what we do not have. This will allow you not to get used to the achieved well-being and move forward. Constantly cultivating a sense of gratitude to fate, we learn to think positively, not to dwell on the failures of past years.
Every morning, waking up, we tell ourselves that the best day of all the days already lived begins, we try to remember this until the evening.
We are trying to at least a little master the area, which, as we were convinced before, is completely inaccessible to us. Discovering new abilities in himself, each person experiences a spiritual uplift, a surge of inner strength, an irresistible desire for action. Thanks to all this, he unconsciously finds the shortest path to success, walks along this path without tension.
We find our main goals by first finding out what makes us cry with joy, how we can make others smile, what these people see as our abilities, what makes us sincerely laugh, what changed us for the better, what we can work on all night long. It helps to find a goal, the achievement of which will make us truly happy.
Let's take it for granted that difficulties pass, and changes in life occur gradually, we will make a list of what is worth doing every day.

How to develop willpower

There are many ways to strengthen willpower, each of which is designed for specific circumstances and inclinations of a person. We will now consider five universal effective methods for developing the will.

Human willpower is not unlimited, and we try to use it, choosing the path of least resistance. When we have a poor idea of how to succeed at work, using our willpower to the fullest, we start working for days, we will lose as a result. Willpower energy is an impulse that will flare up, push us off the spot, and then burn a little and go out.

Willpower cannot be a constant fuel. It is necessary to create a plan from a chain of events that contribute to the organization of forces and movement in the right direction with their dosed use. Performing the planned daily, we gradually accustom ourselves to the rhythm of actions, as a result, even hard work becomes habitual, comes easily to us.

If there is a temptation to go off the intended path to the goal, you want to quit everything, fall on the sofa until better times, we begin to think about our prospects. Most The best way strengthen self-control - present long-term goals and distract from the temptations of the current moment. For example, we dream about how we succeed in our careers, how we occupy a good, well-paid position.

At the moment, we have the opportunity to relax on the sea, and really want to quit work, lie on the beach. However, such an act means the collapse of a career, and the future will become blurry and doubtful. Is it worth it? Hardly. Therefore, in order to destroy the temptation, we begin to think about our prospects, and interest in the object of temptation will immediately fall.

We compose a proposal that affirms the achievement of the goal, mentally repeat it as often as possible. Such a repetition, stating the goal as a fait accompli, is the most effective method strengthening willpower. How to do it? For example, if we figured out how to succeed in business, but start-up capital tempting to spend on buying a car, then you can constantly repeat to yourself: "My business is booming." Consciousness itself will switch from the car to the problems of an existing business, and the purchase of a car will recede into the background.

Every day, at least for a few minutes, we think about our goals, directing the vector of willpower on the path to achieving them. This day-to-day thinking leaves its mark on our emotional memory, helping us choose the direction in which we will use our willpower.

Oddly enough, it will sound, but to strengthen willpower you need to have a good breakfast. This is explained by the fact that willpower is energy, the replenishment of which requires a large amount of glucose. Researchers say that a person who has been in a state of self-control for a long time has a greatly reduced blood glucose level.

An insufficient amount of it can be the reason that when you need to pull yourself together, a person simply cannot do it. Willpower must be nourished, otherwise it will dry up at the right moment. And for this, you should eat foods in the morning that allow you to maintain the desired level of glucose in the blood.

All these techniques are simple, do not require any special conditions for their implementation. This path will bring many surprises, surprises, it can change life, habits, even life values. Such changes sometimes become causes of uncertainty, misunderstanding of one's role in the circumstances. There is nothing terrible in this - we just have to adapt to the new environment, realize where our place is now.

During the adaptation period, a sense of humor, physical exercises, regular good rest, communication with friends and relatives help to reduce stress. The main thing at this time is to boldly step forward, in no case looking back. Memories of the past will give rise to doubts about the correctness of the goal, and doubts, in turn, can lead to significant losses. To prevent this from happening, you need to calmly and deeply analyze the situation in order to thoroughly know all its pluses and minuses, to get guidelines. Let's say to ourselves: "This path to the goal was chosen by me independently." And we resolutely go to it, discarding unnecessary conjectures.

What can make you a failure

If you want to be successful, you must have a solid understanding of what could limit your potential and lead to failure.

So, successful people reject:

false beliefs

These are misconceptions about external factors or about yourself. An example of a false belief is the following situation: a person does not allow himself to set a goal - "achieve yourself better work!" Instead, he thinks, "I can never find Good work, in our time!” False beliefs act as a limit to your potential, and therefore your success. They can not only limit you, but they can also destroy your life.

External locus of control

This is a way of thinking that makes a person believe that everything that happens to him does not depend on him, but on some external factors. For example, when a girl says that the teacher found fault with her too much when she did not do well in the exam; or when your friend says she can't find a good job because the country is unemployed - these are all examples of an external locus of control.

Lack of stamina

What good is it that you have many virtues and valuable skills if you lost hope after the first (well, in the worst case, the second) failure? Those people who achieve the best results are the most persistent among all. They keep working until the very end, until they get what they want, even if everything was against them, even if failure overtook them many times.

Lack of flexibility

Flexibility is the ability of a person to adapt to external conditions. It is an opportunity to try something in a new way when the old, familiar way is ineffective. The more flexible you are, the more you can adapt to new conditions, the higher your chances of success.

Lack of planning

If you don't have goals or plans, then you allow yourself to become part of other people's plans. If you are not planning to be a leader at work, then someone else will be, and if you are not planning to get this high paying job then someone else will take your place. If you do not plan anything, then you will be removed from the path of purposeful people. They will occupy all the prestigious places, make money, gain fame, while you will be just a spectator, a witness to their success. Therefore, planning is an important point in achieving success!

Lack of self-confidence

If you are not confident in yourself, you will be afraid to follow some of your ideas, you will be able to give up a dream when someone tells you that this is impossible. You will avoid any risk and ignore many opportunities that could lead you to success. If you want to increase your chances of success, you must build your self-confidence brick by brick.

fears

Often the fear of failure and the fear of success interfere. While they seem to be complete opposites of each other, both of these fears can have such an effect on you that it prevents you from even trying to do anything. And whoever does nothing, of course, does not make mistakes, but he never succeeds either.

How to change your life

Number of attempts

Babies learn how to hold an object only after they have tried many wrong ways. Every time the baby tries to pick up something in his fingers and then drops the object, he learns something new about the correct way to hold it. After a certain number of attempts, the child finally learns to pick up and hold the object correctly. The same goes for any learning process. If you want to be successful, you must understand that you need to overcome failure until you find what action will work the way you want.

Be flexible

When you can't act like you normally do, take a different approach and try something new. Try to figure out why you didn't succeed so that you can correct your mistakes the next time you try. Every time you discover something new for yourself, learn to overcome another obstacle that stands in the way of success, you will make big step forward along this path.

Go to the end

When Edison was asked how he managed, without losing hope, to try a thousand times to make the light bulb invented by him shine when they exploded one after another, he answered something like this: “Each time the next light bulb exploded, I told myself that I had found another how not to invent it!” He was just sure that he was going to make this invention, so he knew that it was only a matter of time and number of attempts.

Learn to learn

Unsuccessful people very often feel helpless in some situations. They simply do not know what they need to do in order to set a goal, achieve it, and achieve success. After the first failure, or even after the very first misfire, they just get frustrated and give up, instead of studying the cause of the failure. Whenever you can't figure out what went wrong, reach out to people more experienced in the field. You can read the necessary literature, sign up for training courses of the profile you are interested in. The main thing is to learn to understand your topic well, to learn how to overcome difficulties. Then you won't feel helpless!

Be psychologically prepared for any obstacles

People around you will criticize you, maybe even laugh at you, try to undermine your self-confidence, and maybe even begin to reject you. But, if you want to be successful, do not let your dream collapse, do not turn off the chosen path.

Failure or Success

Do you want an example when there are only a couple of meters between success and failure? Imagine a school, a class. There is a lesson. Announce results control work. Two students get fours. They sit on the same version, they are separated by only two desks and a whole abyss of emotions. The trio cannot contain his glee. This four saved him from an unsatisfactory mark in the quarter. The excellent student is shocked silent. For him, four points is a failure. Failure. But there is only one control. Mark too. But it all depends on the attitude to the result of the control of both students. From the one who expected to receive how much at the beginning of the lesson.

Or another example. Two fifty-year-old women are on the train. Both of them were brought up in a complete family with an average income, studied well at school, graduated from the institute. Lots of things in common, right? But the thoughts of women are radically different. One of them, summing up the preliminary result of her life, complains: “The husband does not appreciate. One fishing on my mind. The kids didn't get anything. My daughter gave birth to three children, she stays at home. The son married a divorcee, brings up a stepson, works at a factory. Even the car is a wreck.”

Another, smiling, boasts: “And I have a wonderful husband. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. So many years together. We even go fishing together. Our kids are wonderful. My daughter and her husband are lucky. She follows him like a stone wall. He brings up children, bakes pies. The hostess is good. The son is also great. Kind, human. Brought the girl with the baby. He loves his wife, does not offend his stepson. They live soul to soul. Yes, and we are not poor. Bought a car. Let not a new one, but a good owner. He looked after her like he was his own. So now we can go fishing and picking mushrooms.”

It all depends on how we perceive reality. Do you want to see failure in everything? You will see her! Of course, this does not mean that you need to lower the bar of life requirements and always be content with little. However, search in everything positive sides important.

Where do legs grow from?

Self-esteem depends on upbringing. Did your parents teach you to enjoy life, not to lose heart if something doesn’t work out? This means that a person will grow up adequate, ready for life's troubles.

If a mother constantly tells a child: “You shame me!”, Then he will continue to associate himself with the cause of the shame of other people. From childhood, he was given an attitude that he adheres to. So praise your children. Do not skimp on words of support, love, recognition of children's abilities. After all, it depends on this whether your child will grow up successful or not.

Rewire your mind to the fact that you are no worse than everyone else. And in some ways, maybe even better. Remember all your positive qualities. Develop them. You need to assess your strengths and weaknesses. Just evaluate objectively, and not relying on someone else's opinion.

Take a piece of paper, divide it into two parts. Describe your negative qualities, and on the other hand, your positive ones. Only include your most serious shortcomings as negative. To the positive - even the smallest nuances. Are you good at baking pancakes? Or maybe you can hang a shelf in the bathroom yourself? All of these are sheer pluses. Note - these are your pluses!

Love yourself. Without it simple rule failures will mow you down to the root until the end of your days. Are you unlucky in some way? Or in some situation you did not behave in the best way? Stop punishing yourself, everyone does bad things. People differ only in whether a person knows how to correct the situation and move on, or not.

The main enemy of self-confidence

Why have we jumped from success and failure to self-confidence? Because it is impossible to be lucky and not believe in yourself. It is important to identify cause and effect here. Luck (despite public opinion) is not a cause, but a consequence. A person first believes in himself, and then he is lucky.

Look at the "lucky ones". Do they look insecure? Or do they radiate calmness and self-confidence? Most likely the second. Therefore, you should look for your uniqueness, originality - and there success will not keep you waiting. However, the advice to "be like them" would be wrong. You don't have to be like anyone else. Only for herself. With its advantages and disadvantages.

This originality should be within reason - there is absolutely no need to dye your hair bright orange, put an earring in it or go to Red Square to sing "Harry Krishna". But reading Murakami, which is completely uninteresting to you, or listening to Beethoven just because almost everyone does it, is at least stupid.

Failure is the path to success

Have you ever wondered why people are so afraid of the possibility of failure? They are afraid to look bad in the eyes of others, to be worse than others, to be far from perfect. This is the cause of depression, self-doubt, discontent of others. Someone once came up with the standards that everyone must meet. As they corresponded to them, a person was declared more or less perfect. Perfect mind. Perfect body. A complete loser.

Failure is subjective. But, be that as it may, something happens in life, we get upset, complain that we are unlucky. The editor did not accept the book, did not give a bank loan, did not get a good mark. Failures look different for everyone, but they are frustrating and scary for everyone.

People stop doing things in fear of failing again. The writer, frightened by the first refusal, puts the manuscript on the table and stops writing. The student drops out of school in fear that he will not pass the session and will be dishonored by the whole group. The family continues to rent an apartment instead of taking out a mortgage and moving into their own apartment.

But luck was so close! A week was enough for a student to learn the subject. The writer could hand over the manuscript to another publisher, get a larger fee. The family was waiting for a loan at a nearby bank, which they never reached. All the gifts of fate are wasted. And all just because people are afraid of failure.

Therefore, the worst thing you can do is to be afraid of failure. The more you fear them, the more they happen. And that makes you feel like a big loser. It turns out a vicious circle, which is very difficult to break. But still it is possible, so in no case do not despair, even if you have already got into it.

Proper awareness of failure

To stop being afraid, to finally become happy man, you need to understand that failure is not a defeat, but the next step to success. You must be firmly convinced that you will achieve your goal. And no temporary obstacles will prevent you from doing this. Firmly grasp this truth and all the tasks in this life will become your shoulder.

Remember your childhood. Here you are learning to roller skate. Get up, fall, roll, fall again. However, despite all the failures, it doesn’t even occur to you to stop learning. Sooner or later, you easily and naturally roll down the street on roller skates, not even remembering yesterday's abrasions. Here it is an example of how failure helps to achieve your goal in life.

And how are you different from that kid in a protective helmet with elbow pads? Just a lack of self-confidence. After all, then you knew for sure that you would roller skate. They were absolutely not afraid of anything, The child does not have the thought that something will not work out for him. But time runs, children grow up. Today, you criticize every action you take. Hence all your failures.

There is another noteworthy theory of the existence of failures. According to philosophers, the more obstacles that arise in your path, the closer you come to the goal. So don't turn around in the opposite direction. Don't drop the target halfway to it. Who knows, maybe your goal is hiding behind another wall that has stood in your way? And you, having broken 100 walls, despaired, decided that you were a loser and there would be no sense anyway, stopped in front of the last, 101 wall?!

How self-motivation works

Now that all the ins and outs of failures have been revealed, let's learn how to get rid of past fears, clichés, and prejudices. What is needed for this? Motivation to achieve success and avoid failure. Let's take a look at what you need to do:

Hope for the best, but always prepare for the worst

This old folk wisdom relevant to this day. Come to terms with the idea that there have been, are, and will be failures. Started at work massive layoffs? Be mentally prepared to be among those who have prepared a payslip. But do not fall into depression, feeling sorry for yourself - a poor unfortunate person who was not appreciated.

Better think about the fact that the boss constantly allowed himself to raise his voice, colleagues loved to gossip, and the salary was low. If this is the situation, why not use it to your advantage? Start sending out resumes, very soon you will be surprised to find that there are many companies ready to appreciate your abilities.

If you build your life in this way, you will be ready for trouble and will always meet it fully armed. This does not mean that it is always necessary to look for the negative, to expect only unpleasant surprises from life - life is beautiful! But you need to protect yourself so as not to end up in an unpleasant situation.

Change your attitude to circumstances

Also, change your attitude as quickly as possible. undesirable consequences. Getting upset every time - no nerves are enough. Fired from your job and you haven't found a new job yet? So, you can finally relax, sleep. You will be able to dress the way you want, and not as required by the dress code. And there will be work - there would be a neck, but there will be a collar. The harsh realities of life.

New life

Have a rest? Did you get enough sleep? And now forward - in search new job, a new girlfriend, a new home, or even a new husband! If you do not give up, then everything will definitely work out for you and sooner or later you will bear the proud title of a successful person! Moreover, you yourself will already be able to give advice on how to become one.

What to do for career success

To be successful at work, you need to do the following:

Be passionate about your work, and for this it is absolutely necessary to love the work you are doing.
Bring something of your own to your favorite work: develop an individual style of achieving goals, create your own brand, your own chip.
Recognize the importance of what you do for society. For example, if you are a marketer, then your task is to get as many people as possible to know about your company's unique product and improve their lives with it.
Be active and proactive. Do not wait for some received tasks and assignments; read literature, be interested in new developments in your field, offer management options for improving the company's work.
Do not waste time on unnecessary things, such as sitting in in social networks. Better use it for real relaxation or to achieve your goals.
Become a first-class specialist in a fairly narrow but in-demand area - then you will be in demand.

Success and business

The exercise "I am in the future" will be useful. Often it seems to us that goals are achieved in the following way: the present determines the future, and how you are in the present depends on your achievement of the goal. However, this is not entirely true: in order to subsequently achieve success, you need to become in the present what you will be in the future. Therefore, imagine yourself in every detail, successful in business, and be aware of what qualities you possess. Then, all that remains for you is to develop the appropriate skills, abilities, character traits.

Proper goal setting is important. Visualize in detail what you want to achieve. Keep in mind that good target is the key to the competent development of any business project.

The target must have the following characteristics:

Responsible - it must be formulated in the first person.
Specific - everything should be displayed in the wording: how much, where, when and how.
Real - for example, wanting to become immortal at the present stage of the development of science is not entirely realistic.
Include perfective verbs "do" or "do".
Inspirational - it is useless to set goals that you do not want to achieve and the achievement of which does not motivate you.
Positive - in the formulation of the goal there should not be any "not".

Any success is real and achievable. You need to set the right goal, constantly do something to achieve it, be responsible for your life, be its author and have a positive attitude towards other people. Then success will not be long in coming!

Starting your own business is always associated with a lot of time, effort and material costs. Having created a business and laid the foundation for the development of a company or organization, its owner expects only positive results. That is why it is especially important to support his aspirations. For this, a wish for success in business is perfect.

The need for such a gesture

For some, wishes of this kind are a mere formality, which is dictated, rather, by the rules business etiquette than a sincere desire to support a partner. First of all, we are creating this article for those who want not only to express their wishes for success in business, but to express support and hope for the successful development of the business of a colleague, relative or even competitor.

For such people, both the method of transmission and the form of the wish are important. It is logical that relatives, friends and relatives will express a desire to present the wish personally. In this case, it is worth thinking about an accompanying gift, for example, a bouquet or a souvenir that will look good in the office.

A composition of plants is a great solution for congratulating a partner company. A beautiful bouquet can be ordered in a special salon, where a postcard will be attached to it, in which you indicate your wish for success in business in your own words or choose a ready-made text.

The form of the text - prose or poetry, should also be chosen depending on the specific case. If you know the recipient personally, then a text written in your own words would be quite appropriate. It will help to make the wish more sincere and create

A poem is a no less presentable option, since it can consist of beautiful, especially sublime words. Thanks to them, the wish will acquire splendor, solidity and status.

Examples of wishes from relatives and friends

Dear, (name)! In life, a person makes many important, and sometimes fateful decisions. Together they add up to achievements to strive for. Today you open a new chapter in your life. We wish that the business you are developing becomes a great opportunity for self-realization, allowing you to open up many new perspectives. May success, self-confidence and professionalism accompany you in all your endeavors!

Our dear, (name)! In the role of father, husband, son and brother, we have already managed to study you. Now one more will be added to them - the owner of the business and the head. We wish you to always make wise decisions, direct the team in the right working direction and not give in to the difficulties that arise.

Examples of wishes from colleagues and partner organizations

Dear, (name, patronymic)! The management and staff of (name of the organization) congratulates you on the start of your activity. We would like to express our wishes for success in business. Let the ability to accept right decisions, to keep the situation under control, competently in work contributes to the development of the company and its formation in the entrepreneurial arena. We look forward to further mutually beneficial and fruitful cooperation.

Dear, (name, patronymic)! I hasten to express my wishes for success in business. Let subtle entrepreneurial flair and professionalism become a reliable basis for creating a powerful, competitive company, and all your goals will be achieved.

Wishing you success in business in verse

Now we are partners

And we strive for the same goal.

Worthy measures are ready.

For any difficulty.

We wish you prosperity

And always reach your goals.

And all the worries and doubts

Leave yourself behind.

Thank you for your support and help.

Our alliance is expected to succeed.

And today partners are courteous,

Helmet your corporate "Hi"!

May optimism and perseverance

Accompany you in everything.

So that there is dexterity and agility,

And the strength to stand your ground.

Conclusion

To pronounce the wishes of success in business in prose or in poetic form means to show respect for a partner company or colleague. Despite the competitive environment in which to be, trusting and tolerant relationships between organizations are necessary.

There are many ways to wish good luck in your endeavors or success in business. It is not so important how carefully you think over every little thing of a text or a gift. Much more valuable is the very desire to support a person at such an important moment in his life. We hope that this article will help you find inspiration for writing a wish.

If a black streak has begun in your life, then it is time to turn to the Universe for help. The strongest affirmations will help you regain faith in yourself and gain good luck, success and prosperity.

financial well-being, good luck in all matters and prosperity are important elements happy life. However, fate is not always favorable to us, and sometimes no efforts help us find happiness. It has already been proven that you can get what you want with the help of not only actions, but also words. By saying short phrases every day, you can become richer, happier and more successful. In order to forget about problems forever and change your life, the website site experts suggest you use useful affirmations.

Affirmations for Success

Becoming a truly successful person can be difficult. Sometimes it depends on your worldview, thoughts and even spoken words. With the help of these affirmations, you can program yourself for success and become happier:

I can change my reality and become more successful;
no obstacles will prevent me from getting closer to success;
my every word and action attracts success;
I am surrounded only by successful people, and soon I will be among them;
I radiate success;
success is my main goal, and I can achieve it;
every day I become more successful.

Regularly pronounce these affirmations, and soon you will be able to join the ranks of successful people.

Affirmations for good luck

Sometimes fortune leaves us without its support, and from that moment a black streak begins in a person. If luck turned away from you, we suggest you return it with the help of these effective affirmations:

fortune always accompanies me in business;
I attract good luck;
luck is always with me;
I am lucky, and soon I will be able to prove it to everyone;
I myself (a) create my life, and luck helps me in this;
I am a magnet for good luck;
I deserve good luck.

These simple short phrases will help you become more fortunate in a short time, provided that you say them every day.

Affirmations for prosperity

In order for success, happiness and wealth to reign in your life, you need to rebuild your subconscious mind in such a way that positive thoughts arise in your head more often. These affirmations will help you achieve prosperity:

the flow of prosperity flows into my life, and I become more successful;
prosperity and abundance reign around me;
every day my life gets better and happier;
prosperity and I are one;
I thank the Universe for giving me prosperity and abundance;
everything I do will lead me to prosperity;
prosperity is the meaning of my life.

These affirmations will help you radically change your life, achieve success and become happier.

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Marina Generalova, Chairman of the Education Committee, Nadezhda Gladkikh, Chairman of the Uzlovskaya District Organization of Trade Unions of Public Education and Science Workers of the Russian Federation
Dear colleagues!
On the eve of the new 2016/2017 academic year, we cordially congratulate you and, through you, all those who study and work in municipal system education with the opening of a new significant page in your life.
The results show that the educational institutions of the Uzlovsky district are aimed at achieving the main result - the compliance of education with the goals of advanced development. Our joint efforts have led to certain positive results. Supported by authorities state power and local self-government, there have been obvious shifts in the formation of a new educational environment: renovated buildings educational institutions, modern educational equipment, computer classes, school buses - all these are the realities of today's nodal education system.
With your conscientious work, you create the potential that allows you to confidently say that education today is a steadily developing area. On your shoulders is a great responsibility for the education and upbringing of our children. From your professional excellence, pedagogical talent, creativity and spiritual sensitivity largely depend on the future of our youth. You help our children find their way in life, become literate and worthy citizens of their country. Together we must continue to work to create the most comfortable conditions for education in our area. We are convinced that our efforts will be a guarantee that our children will be able to receive a decent, competitive education.
We sincerely wish all teachers, employees of the education system health, well-being, inexhaustible creative potential, and, of course, new discoveries, bright achievements and talented students! I wish you success, dear colleagues, in the implementation of the most ambitious plans and undertakings.