How to deal with life's difficulties. How to survive a difficult period in life What to do when it is difficult in life

“The best indicator of the level of consciousness is the ability to calmly relate to life's difficulties. They drag the unconscious person down, while conscious person rises more and more"
— Eckhart Tolle, n German writer and spiritual speaker

Often we are faced with the question of how to survive certain difficulties. In fact, any difficult situation is a signal that a person has made an unsuccessful attempt to get out of his comfort zone in order to move to a different level. But since for some reason he is not ready for such a breakthrough, in order to reach new level he needs to overcome the difficulties that have arisen.

From time to time, difficulties arise for each of us. No matter where and how a person lives, he will constantly face certain life difficulties, because they are inevitable. And since they are inevitable, we all need to be able to overcome them. And in order to overcome difficulties, you need to be able to perceive them correctly and evaluate them correctly, in order to then develop the necessary strategy to overcome them.

Difficulties are such obstacles in the way of a person that arise in unfamiliar, unusual circumstances for him, when he has to solve non-standard and therefore difficult tasks, which we often call problems. A difficult situation is simply an unusual situation when a person faces tasks in which he has no experience in solving them.

The absence of difficulties in life would not allow us to develop, we would remain on the same level, nothing in our life would change. And if a person does not develop, then he begins to degrade. After all, life itself, if we look closely at it, is a constant process, it is a movement from something to something. And it is thanks to this movement, this continuous process of transition from one state to another, that we live, we value and love our life, we value it, support it, see the meaning in it. Therefore, our life cannot be without difficulties, for difficulties are life!

I believe that difficulties should be viewed as a test that each of us must pass regularly so as not to lose interest in life and to constantly develop. Therefore, let's just perceive them in this way - as tests. Therefore, one should not look at difficulties as something bad, wrong, harmful, undesirable. Rejoice in them, accept them! Overcoming all sorts of difficulties, you become stronger and stronger. As you become stronger, you improve your life, because many things begin to work out for you, many things become within your power. Think about what abilities you can develop in yourself by taking on the solution of a particular problem, and how these abilities will affect your future life. It is clear that it is positive, because the more we know how to do, the easier it is for us to live. So difficulties are a kind of simulator for personal growth, with the help of which you will make yourself stronger and rise to new heights for you. It's so great!

Difficulties bring positive into our lives, especially from the awareness of overcoming them. We become more confident in ourselves, and with calm determination we move on.

I offer 10 ways to overcome difficulties:

1. No need to avoid problems and difficulties. They will still be. You just need to treat them as a natural manifestation of life and an opportunity to show your best qualities.

2. Develop willpower and spirit. Weak people give up easily. Even with minimal problems, it seems to them that life is over and it is not worth continuing to act further. Strong people go all the way and never give up.

3. There is a way out of any situation. If, choosing a path, something does not work out for you, do not despair. Look for another way without giving up on your dream.

4. Any difficulties allow you to show flexibility, which is often lacking in life. Maybe you don’t know how to ask, and life puts you in such conditions in order to overcome your pride, which in human language means “I’m embarrassed to ask” or “I’m uncomfortable.”
Maybe you do not know how to receive, and when you are given gifts that you do not need, you do not accept them with gratitude, but are upset because you were not given what you would like. And then you again worry about the fact that they don’t give you anything at all.

5. Difficulties develop your resourcefulness. And like, there was no way out, but appeared. And if you still show ingenuity, then everything will turn out in the best possible way.

6. Remember that you are not the only one having difficulties. Everyone faces this. And if others can overcome it, why not you too?

7. Think positively. As my friends tell me: “Tatiana, you are fine in any situation: “knives are not sharpened - your children and grandchildren will not cut themselves, it blows from the window - fresh air in the house.” Of course, you don’t need to wear rose-colored glasses, but you shouldn’t constantly worry about minor problems. There are worse situations in life.

8. Do not dwell on the problem, do not grind it in your head, but try to solve it. And the sooner you start doing this, the better for you.

9. Never set yourself up for failure! Otherwise, why start something that will obviously end soon? As you set, so be it. Thoughts are material, whatever one may say.

10. And yet, if you have difficulties and you cope with them, then new opportunities, new chances await you ahead. Try not to miss them!

I wish you good luck in overcoming difficulties! May success always accompany you!

Sincerely
Tatiana Minina

Marina Nikitina

It is difficult to find a person who does not know what the difficulties of life are. But there are millions of people in the world who do not know how to overcome these difficulties. They lie to themselves, denying the existence of difficulties, give up, stopping all attempts to solve problems or understand them. What does this lead to? Nothing positive. A person falls into a prolonged depression or gets nervous, mental illness.

If you are a strong-willed person, accustomed to face the truth, then this information will not be useful to you. If you do not have the courage to solve problems, work on yourself with today, because you have already taken a small step in this direction - you decided to find out how to overcome difficulties.

Problem Diagnosis

To fight the enemy you need to know him by sight. Therefore, we first determine the presence of difficulties and see which category they belong to. Life difficulties:

Serious problems from the outside (loss of the most expensive property, a house burned down, a large amount of money was stolen, the death of a loved one, an incurable disease).
Difficulties of medium difficulty (kicked out of work, wife, you got sick, no means of subsistence).
Difficulties in self-identification psychological problems(, feeling of inferiority or worthlessness, depression, panic).
Domestic difficulties (tired of cleaning, cooking, quarreling with her husband because of his carelessness, plumbing is out of order, not enough money, the phone crashed, difficulties in family life).

The problems described in the first two paragraphs are not necessarily the most difficult. The third type of problems - psychological - can be of any complexity. It is difficult to analyze the subtle world called “psyche”, therefore, in order to deal with this kind of problems, one must try. Everyday difficulties from the last category are only at first glance inferior in complexity to the previous ones, they drag you into a pool of sadness, fear, sluggish destructive hatred for yourself and the rest of the world. Therefore, any of the problems is serious, especially for the one who has it.

Making a willful decision to fight

Giving a clear name is a must, because vague complaints like “I feel bad, my soul hurts, it’s hard, but I don’t know why” and it’s impossible to “cure”.

After realizing the problem, you already have a formulation. It is not always easy to take even this step, but you should not think about it, do it in order, so to speak, in small steps. Thus, you will go through the whole long, albeit difficult, path. Don't forget: "Great things start small."

After looking into the eyes of your difficulty, the problem will already decrease in size. Now it will not pulsate in your exhausted brain every day or seem like a black bottomless abyss. No, after the bold step of identifying the problem, you have already seen your enemy and know his size. It turns out that this is not a bottomless abyss, although it is very deep in some particularly serious cases.

How often does it happen that a person knows a problem that has been bugging him for a long time, but does not want to fight, he is disappointed in life, does not believe in himself and walks like a psychological corpse - Homo Sapiens lives, eats, breathes, but interest in anything has disappeared , life is disgusting only by the fact of its presence. What is there to advise?

Strange as it may sound, but if it seems to you that the end of the person you previously saw in the mirror has come, it’s good because there is nothing to lose in such a situation. It remains only to decide to fight, to solve problems.

You ask, what to do if it is completely incomprehensible in which direction to move? Do you need to do something, even if you are not sure of the correct path? Of course yes. Here is an example. Imagine that you have a small wooden box in front of you. It is filled with balls of the same size, but of different colors: first, a handful of black balls are poured, and the same number of white ones are on top. The box is closed.

Now we draw parallels: one of the black balls is you. The ball lies at the bottom of the box, there are black balls around, there is also a large layer of balls on top and the situation seems completely hopeless, since there is no way to get up and there are no known ways to solve the problem.

Now imagine that you take the box in your hands and start shaking it. Yes, at first glance you are doing actions at random. You do not know what is happening inside, you know one thing - when you shake the box, at least something happens inside. And now let's reveal the cards: in the process of such shaking, the balls in the box begin to mix. It happens randomly, but everyone has heard the theory of probability.

So, according to this theory, the balls in the box will eventually return to their original position with almost zero probability. So to do at least something is, with decadent moods. And there, you see, during the shaking you will understand in which direction you need to tilt the box and your ball will be pushed up by other balls.

Difficulties in a person's life

Imagine life without hardship. It seemed like it could be better. You will be surprised, but it is the presence of difficulties that shows us how good life can be, gives us food for thought, makes us, like the balls from the example above, move. If the difficulties in a person's life disappear, then there will be nothing to compare other events with, no one will even imagine what difficulties are, nor what joyful events are. They will not be, because everything will be painfully the same.

To maintain vitality, to maintain self-control, you must always remember what was written on the ring of King Solomon. It said, "This too shall pass." When he had, he looked at this inscription and calmed down, because there was an installation that everything would pass. But he was in no hurry to rejoice, so as not to be upset later, because even in this case he looked at the inscription and was convinced that this too would pass, that everything in the world was passing and passing.

Ways to overcome the difficulties of life

Overcoming the difficulties of life is organized in many different ways. The first way: repeat the example of King Solomon. Can you really engrave a ring in jewelry store and always wear it on your finger. Another way to look at this wise expression is to make a beautiful sign that will hang in a conspicuous place in your home.

Let in your head not a picture of a sad development of events for you, but this useful phrase. In the meantime, you will begin to take any action, at least to divert attention, then you will understand what to do to directly solve the problem.

Don't be afraid to think about your enemy - about the problem that poisons your existence. It is better to muster up the courage and analyze whether the grief is as great as his tortured brain represents. Analyze it. Ask yourself: “Yes, I have a problem. And what follows from this? What are the consequences of an unresolved problem?” You need to represent honestly: choose not only Negative consequences but also a positive outcome. After all, you must clearly understand that there are always several options for the outcome, and excluding the positive ones, you do not leave yourself a chance to change something.

Remember that you need to be sure to break the repetitive cycle of negative thinking. This is difficult because thought patterns (the paths that thought takes through the neurons of the brain) are already well-worn paths: the more they are walked on, the bigger they become. It is already difficult to think differently, but you do it. All events in life follow your thoughts. That is, first you give an assessment of the event in your head, coloring it in some color, and only then look at everything else through the prism of your assessment. Throw away at least for a while black colors from your palette of thoughts. Any event for the universe has no emotional color, neither good nor bad. So for one person the event will be bad, and for the other it will be good. Only people evaluate events, only you decide whether you will learn a lesson from what is happening or it will crush you with your own permission.

If your problem came from outside, for example, a loved one died or you were left homeless, then the positive thinking techniques described above will come to your aid. In the case when the problem concerns your psyche and worldview, the “pattern break” technique will help. The mechanism of the passage of thoughts (nerve impulses) through the neurons of the brain has already been described above. It is much easier for a lazy brain to let its thoughts go along already known paths - patterns of behavior. Will have to make an effort of will to "blaze" a new path.

In fact, this way looks like this. Experiment with any thought (it is not necessary to immediately reflect on the problem that bothers you). For this exercise, any statement that you have no doubt about, that is already firmly stuck in the brain, will do. Usually it is from such thoughts and behavioral reactions that a pattern is formed.

Next, try to doubt this statement. This will be difficult to do, because it has been fixed many years ago and it seems that there can be no other opinion. When you try to convince yourself that long-familiar things may be completely different from what they seem, you will feel a kind of resistance. It's like cutting a path through the impenetrable jungle with a machete, sweating, despite the fact that there is a path already cut in the thickets nearby.

If you work on yourself so regularly, you will definitely pave new paths. It cannot be otherwise, this is how you once formed ideas about the world that you are now guided by without subjecting them to analysis. But it is precisely for a conscious life, and not a semi-automatic one, that we are given the opportunity to be aware of ourselves, along with which we need for thoughts and actions.

There is another plus: when you look for new variations (logical connections), new connections are formed among the billions of brain neurons, even if such thoughts seem fantastic at first - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is to cover the brain with a network of connections. Then one day a brilliant idea or an amazing solution to a problem will come to you that you could not have thought of before, because the overwhelming number of neurons are now connected to any of them, even a distant neuron (although the word “remote” does not fit the description of instantaneous neural connections). ).

“If you cannot change the circumstances, change your attitude towards them” - stick to this rule.

March 23, 2014, 03:41 pm

Difficulties in life are more than just single difficulties or failures. Troubles or hardships can be seen as a series of hardships or misfortunes that keep you from reaching your goals and make you feel unhappy. So how can this situation be overcome? This is actually easier said than done, but you can overcome adversity if you develop the right attitude and take the steps to get what you want and deserve. If you want to start overcoming difficulties right now, see step 1.

Steps

Part 1

Shaping your point of view

Don't let your past dictate your future. There are a number of ways how this can be done. Maybe you grew up in a rough environment where you were never encouraged. This should not make you think that you will never succeed in your current environment. Maybe you're trying to become an actress but haven't made it through your last thirty auditions; don't let that make you think you'll never get a call again. Focus on what is in front of you and on achieving what you want to achieve despite your past.

• Think about how much sweeter success will be when you can say that you got what you worked for, despite a past that dictated otherwise.
• A difficult past can make a successful future even more productive. You can't measure your success in acting, business, painting, etc. if you get everything on the first try.

1. Focus on the positive. Although this is the last thing you are capable of after a series of setbacks or a general sense of hopelessness, you must focus on the positive. This is exactly what you need to do to ensure your survival. If you want to overcome all adversity, you must focus on the positive, whether that means positive aspects of your situation or positive outcomes that you will achieve in the future. Make a list of all the positive things in your life, or all the good things that you might be looking forward to, and you will find that you are much happier than you think.

   • Focusing on the positives will help you develop a more positive attitude, which in turn will help you succeed.
   • Start being happy right now. Some people think, "Once I reach goal X, I will be happy. I will work, work, work to achieve it, and then fulfill myself." Well, that's the wrong attitude. Right Attitude is: "I'm already happy because I'm working towards goal X. And being happy while working towards this goal will help me achieve it faster. Everyone wins!"

2. Accept the inevitability of fate. Another thing is what you need to do to overcome all adversity and accept the fact that it can happen to anyone. Unfortunately, some people face more trouble than others, but that doesn't mean you can't accept your fate and work to overcome adversity as much as you can. Instead of denying that you are struggling, feeling that it is not really happening, or that you can run away from conflict, you must be able to accept adversity in your life if you want to be able to fight it.

   • Do not look around at your neighbors, friends and colleagues and do not think that everything that happens to you is unfair. Of course, this may be true, but instead of obsessing over her, accept what is happening and move on.

3. Find inner strength. Kelly Clarkson, among many others, once said, "Whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger", unfortunately this is not 100% true. Of course, people can grow morally and become stronger in the process from adversity if they develop methods to deal with this problem. But people who have been repeatedly beaten and who do not have the mental toughness to deal with their problems end up getting weaker. Don't be afraid of it. Work on building up your mental resilience so that you can deal with any problems that may arise. Here are some things you can do:

   • Write down everything that worries you in a diary. Don't rant or complain. Rather, make it a habit to chronicle the events that bother you and start sorting them out.
   • Meditate daily. Just 10-20 minutes of daily meditation can help you overcome difficulties with an honest attitude towards them.
   • Don't set unrealistic goals. If you plan to be a rock star, pop star, CEO(within a year), an Olympic athlete after three months of training, etc., you are bound to be disappointed. You can still install lofty goals, but don't let all your happiness or success depend on whether you actually achieve something extraordinary.

4. Accept mistakes as a method of learning opportunities. Don't look at your mistakes as setbacks or setbacks or punishments for thinking differently. Instead, understand and acknowledge when you did something wrong and ask yourself what you understood in this situation and what you will do differently next time. Think about what you could have done differently, but don't beat yourself up about what you did; make a list of all the reasons, this experience will make you more collected next time.

   • You must also learn to recognize your mistakes. Don't blame yourself and think that you did something wrong if someone really hurt you, or if you suffered a professional failure despite doing everything absolutely right.

5. Define the problem. Maybe the problem is the general feeling that you just can't excel at something. Maybe you feel like environment pulls you down. Or maybe you feel like you're too hard on yourself or doomed to fail and never get anywhere. The sooner you identify the real problem, the faster you can move towards solving it. If you spend any time really thinking about the problem, you may find that the problem is something other than what you thought.

   • For example, you may think that adversity is the reason for the total lack of respect in the workplace. Maybe people treat you with rudeness, overwhelm you with extra work and participation in promotions without saying thank you, and so on. But if you dig deeper, you can see that real problem that you do not believe in your work and want to find something more meaningful. In this case, none of the original problems matter much!

6. Self-control should be above all. Even though no one will expect you to laugh and be full of life during times of great difficulty, you should try to maintain your composure as much as possible, if only to succeed yourself. You can cry, you can let your emotions out, you can talk about the situation with your three best friends, but after a while you have to let go of the situation in order to move forward. If you are sad, lethargic, have money problems for several months after some serious trouble, you will not be able to move forward, think creatively or find answers to your questions.

   • If you really need some time to recover, take it. Don't force yourself to act like you're fine when you really aren't. But you cannot allow the external situation to upset you all the time. You must find a way to keep your calm and poise.

   Part 2

   Taking action

   1. Return upstairs. It is important to get back on the horse and try to achieve it until you achieve it. You stop, ask meaningful questions, and regroup, all of which are essential to your success. You cannot continue to feel sorry for yourself or feel like a failure all your life. And the sooner (within the limits of possibility) you get back on your horse, the better! This does not mean that you should go and do what you did before (see next step), you should make a plan, go out and do something that can help you.

      • Set limits for yourself. If everything that happened was really bad, give yourself a month or two to recover. If it was only kind of bad, give yourself a few weeks. The mope setting can help you visualize future success and will keep you from getting stuck in that rut forever.

   2. Stop doing the same thing to get different results. If what you have been doing is not working (you have been doing it for a year or ten years), then something needs to be addressed. If you keep doing this, you are probably going to get the same old results over and over again. This means that you must do something different to get a different result. For example, find another job, find another partner, move to a different area, or do something that you think will lead to new results.

      • Of course, sometimes it's just a matter of trying until you succeed. If you want to be an actress, then yes, you should keep going to auditions. But if that doesn't work, consider what you can change. Maybe go to other kinds of auditions or change your acting style to make it successful.

   3. Make a gratitude list. Make a list of at least three things you are grateful for every day. Keep a journal of positive experiences at least every other day, so that you are constantly reminded of the good things in your life. Write down the things you are grateful for, the things that make you happy, and all the joys that fill your life. You may not feel like there are so many things to be happy right now, but if you dig deeper, you will see that you have more than just being grateful than you originally thought.

      • Spend just 10-15 minutes a day thinking about the things you are grateful for. Surely you have time for this?

   4. The key to success is to draw attention to yourself. If you are not visible, how can you overcome all adversity? You have to keep trying, keep going, keep fighting to succeed, even if it means you have to change the battle plan. Be stubborn. Be aggressive. Be persistent. Know that nothing good can happen if you just lie in bed thinking about the great things that are about to happen to you. No one is going to call you and acknowledge your hard labour if you don't try!

   5. Spend time with successful people. You don't have to be the most successful person in your group of friends. Well, if you are Bill Gates, then such things are inevitable, but in general, you will have to spend time in the company of people who work hard in pursuit of their dreams and the search for the meaning of life. This does not mean that they should be leaders. They can be poets, sponsors, avid gardeners - just people who know what they want and who will follow them. Talk to them about how they got to where they are now. See how they overcame adversity. You can learn a lot from other people and they can help you realize your own dreams.

      • This does not mean that you should sacrifice your less successful friends for more successful ones. But that means you have to look successful people!

   6. Don't isolate yourself. Don't be alone in times of trouble. It will only make you feel more crappy, lonely, sad and frustrated about everything. You don't have to complain about your problems to every stranger on the street, but you do have to stay social, spend time with family and friends, or even go out to dinner with colleagues just to get some outdoor time. You can pout with your failures, but that's not the way to get what you want.

      • It may help to talk about the problems you are facing. Finding a trusted friend or two, or even a therapist if needed, can help you sort out your thoughts. Sometimes just stating your problems is half the battle.

   7. Lean on your support. A strong support system (friends, family, supportive colleagues, great neighbors, or even the online community you belong to) can get you through anything. It is very difficult to overcome all adversity when you feel 100% independent. Have people to turn to when needed, or even if you don't need anything but laughter and a good time. This can come in handy when you need to talk to someone.

      • Develop a support system early on before you fail. Maybe these will be people who can be called in case of need. This can be difficult to do when you are already in a crisis situation.

   Part 3

   Stay on the go

   1. Find creative solutions. If you want to stay on track and get rid of this whole problematic situation, then you may have to find a creative solution to your problems. To open your mind to creativity, you need to feel comfortable enough with yourself and have enough space to breathe freely and not wallow in your own thoughts. It means finding a way to follow your passion, raising your kids, finding a way to market yourself in a career, or remembering some old contact that can help you get exactly what you need.

      • Expand your mind. Waste time on creative activity, for example, on writing short stories about painting. This may help you look at your own life in a creative point of view.

   2. You should always have a plan B. If you feel like you are facing a ton of adversity and that you will never be able to get what you want, it is only because you are unable to imagine happiness in one form. Maybe you've always wanted to be in the NBA. Maybe you thought that you should publish the work you wrote at the age of 30, or your life has no meaning. Maybe you felt like you should have started your own successful business, or you would be a complete loser. Well, part of overcoming adversity is overcoming the idea that there is only one way you can find happiness.

      • Make a list of all the other things that will make you happy and fulfilled. Not many people achieve to get into the NBA, and most likely it will not be you. But it's not that bad! Instead of looking for happiness in just one form, expand your mind to find something else that can make your life worth living.
      • Find something you're good at; whether it's related to your career or not, it can help you believe in yourself.
      • Make a list of weaknesses and things you want to work on, and tackle them one by one. The sooner you start working on your imperfections, the better.

   3. Take care of yourself. No matter how busy you are or how stressed you are, make sure you get three healthy meals a day and about 7-8 hours of sleep. And do what you have to do to feel healthy. Your health and well-being shouldn't be sidelined just because you're trying to pay off your loans, start your own business, or solve personal problems.

      • Your health should always be an absolute priority. It can never be left on the sidelines, and everything else will follow.

   4. Remember your goals. In the end, if you want to stay focused on overcoming difficulties, you must remember that your goals and what you have are for your own future. You must not forget what you set out to do, whether it was writing an amazing novel, creating non-profit organization or helping the homeless. Write these goals down as a list along with reasons why you want to do what you want to do and look at them more often. You will feel excited thinking about how good it will be when you finally achieve your goal.

      • You may forget what your ultimate goals when you feel like you've been working on them all day and it's getting nowhere. It's important to keep them at the forefront of your mind so that even the most trivial tasks make sense. If you keep looking forward and not backward, be sure to succeed!
   • Do something productive or creative when you're stressed and you'll see your stress levels go down very quickly.

In life you have to face a lot of different problems. It's an endless chain of ups and downs. It seems that in most cases the problem can be dealt with, but not everyone quickly gets back on their feet after a serious failure. Sometimes it hurts too much. But it's incredibly important to keep moving forward. Here are five useful tips that will help you get through the traumatic experience more easily and teach you to look to the future with confidence.

Remember the hard times in life

It may seem like a bad idea, but everything is not so simple - the thought of failure evokes sadness, but at the same time it helps to understand that any difficulty can be overcome. You were able to move on with your life. It usually seems that the problem broke life forever, so remembering similar disasters is very important. You become stronger with each new experience. Allow yourself to draw strength from your past, this is your priceless baggage.

Write or tell how you feel

Get away from the situation

Can be hard to accept rational decisions, being at the very center of the problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you don’t need to plunge into a difficult situation with your head - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. This happens more often than you would like to admit. Try to abstract in every difficult situation, think about everything that happens calmly. Take a break. If you have tense relatives or colleagues around you, spend some time alone with yourself. Sometimes all it takes to solve a problem is just a little breather and a break for reflection.

Remind yourself that you are not alone

It's so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes such a person is not around in real life, but you can find support online. Whoever you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can. They also had similar problems, they understand your emotions. Maybe someone else is in the same situation as you right now. Just find this person.

Accept the situation and become stronger

No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - the past cannot be changed anyway. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have a new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back, everything has already happened. Just consider that now your character has become stronger, and be proud of yourself. You have experienced a difficult moment, but it does not define you or your whole life. Take a life lesson out of it and don't dwell on that memory again. Ahead of you is completely new life not related to this issue.

It's no secret that there is no person who has never encountered difficulties in life.

Some obstacles are within reach, while others seem insurmountable. Sometimes they seem too unfair. And against the background of the serene happiness of others - just a mockery.

But the question: "How to deal with difficulties?" still remains open, even with a lot of experience. There will always be a step that this time will seem unrealistically high.

I offer you a parable about how to deal with difficulties. I accept your comments on this subject after the post.

Parable "How to deal with difficulties"

One day a student asked his Master:

- Why are there difficulties that constantly prevent us from achieving goals, take us away from the chosen path, make us weak?

- It depends on how and what to call. Difficulties are part of your goal. You don't have to fight it. Think about it. Take it into account when you decide on a path. It can both take away your energy and make you stronger.

For example, when you are going to sail, you do not see the final result of your journey. It is far away.

You don't know what may meet you at sea. Rain, heavy wind, fog are obstacles.

But you're not fighting the fog, are you? You wait for it to dissipate, gathering your strength. When the fog clears, you will continue on your journey with renewed vigor.

Are you fighting the wind? You set the sails so that he carries you with desired speed and in the right direction.

It takes strength to stand at the helm. To turn the ship, you need to overcome its resistance.

But you are not fighting, but simply training your muscles, becoming more enduring every day. And when a storm overtakes you, you will have the strength and ability to cope with it. Is it possible to call a real sailor someone who has never been in a storm. Every test is your victory.

- But there are cases when they cross the ocean without a single storm, and not everyone has as many trials as I do? The whole world is just against me!

“You should never look at others. Everyone has their own ship and their own way. Each has its own crew of sailors and their own teachers. And its time to go on an independent voyage. Someone grew up in a sailor's family and has been able to set sails since the age of five. And the other one only learns this at the age of 40.

There is one important secret.

The fog does not descend for putting a swim. And the wind does not blow to take away your sails. The steering wheel is not heavy so that you understand how weak you are.

All this exists by itself. Only you decide how you will learn to navigate the ship in such conditions.

So it's useless to complain. It is only your decision whether to become a good sailor or choose another, easier target.