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All! Enough! Tired of work, tired of friends, got this gassed city! From Monday I will start off new life !
I'll change jobs! I will change my friends! I'm moving to another city!
A familiar situation, isn't it?
Almost every month, or even every week, we are going to start something, but for some reason at some point we stop and forget about the changes.
Why does this happen, you ask.
Why do old habits always win and we end up in jobs we hate?
How to start a new life?
What kind of carrot to motivate yourself to achieve a specific goal?
We will talk about all these issues with you below.
Where to start a new life?
Having made a final and irrevocable decision to begin a new life, the most difficult for us is the first step.
After all, we get used to the standard everyday life, get used to the situation that has developed around us.
And we begin to want serious changes only when we reach a dead end.
It is then that we say to ourselves: “Everything! Basta! I want to start life clean slate».
“For a wise man, every day a new life opens up.”
Dale Carnegie
But at the same time, we simply do not know what steps or actions should be taken to change our lives for the better.
If you have finally made up your mind to begin a new life, then the following simple steps will set you on the right path!
Step 1. Let go of the past
If you want to to begin a new life, we must first part with the past.
You must clearly understand that it is impossible to live in a new way with the burden of old problems.
In this case, nothing good will come of it.
You will only procrastinate the past and stagnate.
No development, and even more so novelty, simply does not shine for you.
For example, before getting married again, my friend Masha threw out of her mind everything that concerned her old husband, an alcoholic.
If she had not done this, then her next boyfriend would have been no better.
Yes, because the laws of the universe work in 100% of cases.
Thinking about alcoholics - we attract alcoholics, thinking about poverty - we lose our jobs, thinking about money - we start earning it.
Did you get the gist?
Before you start moving somewhere, you need to part with the past.
Step 2. Let go of the present, our habits and work
Once you've stopped dwelling on the past, it's time to move on.
And the next step to a new life will be parting with the present.
Agree, if you decide to live in a new way, then the present does not suit you anymore.
I think yes!
What do you need to do?
At this stage, prepare a list of what you do not like in your life.
Write down in a diary all your negative habits, friends that pull you to the bottom and hateful work.
Be honest with yourself and write down absolutely everything that you would like to leave behind and that you would like to change.
Now crumple the written sheet, set it on fire, and throw the ashes out the window.
Thus, now it will be much easier for you to find a job to your liking, friends and habits!
Step 3. New hobbies
Now that you've cleared the past and dealt with the present, let's move on to shaping the future.
Here you have to think about what you would like to do.
Think of new hobbies.
For example, you have long dreamed of jumping with a parachute, visiting a submarine or looking into the mouth of a volcano.
Right now is the best time for all undertakings!
Step 4: Change Your Habits
Now that you have taken so many steps towards such an important goal, like starting a new life It's time to take on old habits and change them into new ones.
Many psychologists agree that changing habits takes about 2 months.
Naturally, someone can eradicate old habits faster, and someone will need more than two months.
For example, you go to the bathroom every morning, where you wash your face, brush your teeth and take a refreshing shower.
You don't have to break yourself to brush your teeth, do you? You do these actions on the machine, because they have become your habit.
Now imagine that before you brush your teeth, you will take a short run in the nearest park.
Represented?
And what do you think about this?
Surely you do not want to do this, you are overcome by laziness.
But starting morning jogging and holding out for 2 months, they will become your habit and will be done automatically.
On the initial stage all you need is internal resistance.
The same is true for other habits.
Try to overcome yourself and then you will begin to live in a new way!
Step 5. There is strength, there is will - there is no willpower
When you start to break yourself by developing new habits, you will need a lot of willpower to overcome all internal contradictions.
As soon as you decide to start running in the morning, laziness will immediately wake up and, like a tempter snake, will whisper to you: “Come on, today you can run once and not run, today you can run less, and catch up tomorrow.”
It is at such moments when your inner snake begins to tempt you, it is important not to listen to it, but to concentrate only on a new habit.
If you can't resist, look for a mega strong motivation or tell the whole world that you are starting to fight old habits.
AT this case you just can't back out. Indeed, otherwise you will cease to be respected, as you are throwing words into the wind.
Step 6. New acquaintances
After all, in which case you can always go back.
Without trying something now, in the future you will only reproach yourself for being too slow!
Here is a short video with tips
inciting to action:
And finally, a kick for overclocking ...
I know that to begin a new life not quite easy.
This does not happen overnight (although there are exceptions).
In order not to end up with a broken trough, you will have to make the most of the acquired life experience and don't repeat the mistakes you've made.
When faced with a problem, do not run ahead of the engine.
First analyze the situation, and then look for the right solutions.
Remember: all problems arise only in our minds!
Move towards your new life no matter what, and may good luck always accompany you.
And one more thing: never put off a new life for Monday - start it now ...
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Helpful Hints
Most people make lists of what they would like to try in life.
Some do it to realize unspent opportunities or because of the desire to prove themselves in something new, others - just to acquire positive emotions and new sensations.
However, these task sets are often formed in a particular social context, and their performance depends on a number of factors and external conditions, such as career or marital status.
It is worth stopping and thinking about what is really important to you. After all, everyone has one life, and it goes by quickly.
And you spin like a squirrel in a wheel, getting into an endless routine of daily affairs and problems.
William Ross once said, “Every man dies. Not every person really lives.”
This checklist will remind you of what's really important to you and allow you to focus on what you want out of life. Do not be afraid to write down even the most crazy and stupid ideas at first glance.
A wish list
So, here is a list of ten items, each of which represents an act that must be done in life in order to feel happy.
Anyone can draw something useful and interesting from this list, or maybe add some of their own ideas and preferences. In any case, it is up to us to decide what is really interesting and important, and what will help to shake up and distract from the daily routine.
Hiking
1. Go Hiking
Hiking is at the top of this list for a reason. According to those who practice it, this sport gives an unforgettable experience. Due to its low cost, it is especially loved by students.
Hiking allows you to enjoy natural beauty in any direction. Its advantages are the relatively low travel costs, and the whole ocean of pleasure and emotions from it.
Freedom and fun are the main companions of hiking. Plus, this is a great opportunity to make new interesting acquaintances. Even when traveling alone without companions, you will never feel alone. There will always be people around you.
Budget airlines, hostels, hitchhiking - all this will undoubtedly make your life brighter and more colorful. Hiking gives a lot in terms of spiritual and personal development. It allows you to understand yourself and see this world from the inside.
Knowledge of the world and strengthening the strength of mind is the main goal of this sport. Therefore, if you are stuck at a crossroads in life, hiking is what it takes to start moving in the right direction.
try something new
2. Try yourself in a new profession
Surely each of us at least occasionally thinks about changing the type of activity, even if his work completely suits him.
Many people want to try something new in terms of profession, different from what you did before. Here it is important to consider Your interests. After all, what you like to do can become the meaning of your life.
Try to develop your hobby. Make every effort to make your favorite thing occupy a certain part of your life.
Start slowly, and gradually devote more and more time to activities that interest you. Finally, you will be able to master new profession, stepping in the right direction and, making enough effort, you can even build a successful career.
A new profession will help you expand your horizons and realize your dreams.
Become a volunteer
3. Volunteer in some good cause
Do good without expecting anything in return. Such an experience, no doubt, will give you the best impressions in your life. This is one of those experiences that each of us should try.
There are hundreds of things you can do as a volunteer to help other people in need.
Being a volunteer in doing good deeds is not mandatory. Rather, it should be the call of the heart and soul.
You can try to help in a hostess, work with children with disabilities or help homeless animals in shelters.
Your money, skills and social status do not play a special role. In such cases, the desire to help others is important, and the efforts and efforts made will do their job.
Try to do good to those who need it. Set aside time for this. Remember that your every good deed is important, and that there are always those in the world who are worse than you, which means there are those who need your help all the time.
Blind date
4. Go on a blind date
A blind date is like Russian roulette: you never know what awaits you in the end, who you will meet and where this adventure may lead.
The elements of surprise and excitement are very intriguing, because you can't even imagine what your partner looks like until the last moment.
One of the advantages of blind dates is that such meetings exclude feelings of guilt and duty: if you do not like a fan, you can safely reject his subsequent invitations and hints of further communication.
Thus, blind dates have a number of advantages. First of all, this is a great opportunity to meet someone interesting.
You can meet a great conversationalist with whom there is an unlimited number of topics to discuss. And if you are especially lucky, there is a possibility that you will make a good friend or meet your destiny.
5. Try an extreme sport
There are many who simply cannot live without extreme sports, while others consider such people to be brave or crazy.
Even if you do not belong to the category of those same "reckless daredevils", such an experiment will give you a lot of positive emotions.
Bungee jumping, kayaking, paragliding or swimming with white sharks will be an invaluable experience that will give you the thrill.
Such experiments can last from a few seconds to several minutes, but they can become the most unforgettable moments in your life.
Since extreme sports are very traumatic and dangerous, you must take all precautions and do it with a professional instructor. In no case do not try to conquer the sky or snowy peaks on your own or take a swim alone.
6. Treat a stranger to coffee
There is nothing easier than just taking and treating a stranger in a cafe with tea or coffee. It would seem that such a trifle, but there will be a lot of positive emotions from such an act. From the received positive, you will be energized for the whole day.
And it's just a simple cup of coffee.
See the northern lights
7. Watch the Northern Lights
People of different faiths and nationalities fly huge distances towards the north to enjoy this amazing spectacle.
An outstanding natural phenomenon called the Northern Lights (Aurora Borealis) can be seen in the Arctic region, breaking the latitude of 60 degrees. The highest chances of seeing the Northern Lights in their full glory are from the beginning of October to the end of April.
It is during this time period that the Northern Lights are a strikingly beautiful sight that leaves an indelible impression on the soul of every traveler.
However, the north is also other amazing natural beauty. Dog sledding, skiing and fun winter holidays will be remembered for a long time by fans of such cold exotics.
If you ever get the opportunity to visit a northern country, do not hesitate to take it. Swap your crowded southern resorts for Alaska, Iceland or Norway and you won't regret your choice for a minute.
The beauties of the northern countries amaze with their inaccessibility, grandeur, mystery and cold romance.
Overcoming fears
8. Fight your fears
Some of us live our lives accumulating inside ourselves a whole arsenal of various fears and complexes. As a rule, we see no reason to overcome them, finding constant excuses that they don't bother us at all.
In fact, most of our fears are irrational and unfounded. Many have a fear of loss, others are afraid of loneliness, others are afraid of people and society. All possible fears accumulated inside ourselves affect our life and behavior, often preventing us from achieving our goals.
While a person is in the grip of various fears, his potential does not work at full capacity.
Try to understand that all fears and fears exist only in the head, in your mind. They only seem scary, but in fact they are harmless. Of course, easier said than done, but you will never get rid of your fears if you do not fight them.
Start fighting them right now, from today.
To overcome existing complexes and fears, try talking to a stranger, singing in front of a large audience, skydiving, or calling the guy you like first.
Many people on earth sometime in their lives think about the question: how to start a new life? This question is simple, but it is often difficult to find the right answers to it. After all, it is not so easy to break with past mistakes and delusions and start life from scratch. Let's try in this short article to give a few useful tips those who aspire to start living anew.
So, let's begin.
Council the first. Appreciate the mistakes and failures of the past and discard them
The first thing to do for anyone who decides to start over is to take a closer look at their past. You need to understand what in this past did not suit you and why. It is also very important to understand for yourself the reason for the failures. What was this reason? Perhaps the reason for your failure in life was poor family upbringing, deep poverty, lack of a good education and profession? Or maybe your complexes and hidden fears became the reason for everything? Or have you yourself harmed yourself all your life because of a bad temper? In any case, take a closer look at yourself and those around you, so you will more likely find the causes of your troubles and conflicts. After all, starting to live anew is not so easy, it requires both character, and will, and determination to change something in your life.
For example, many women think about how to start a new life after a divorce. Indeed, this is not easy to do, not even because at the age of 40 it is difficult to find a new life partner, but because creating a family again, a woman will voluntarily or involuntarily transfer past problems and difficulties into her new life. Beware of such mistakes. Try to break with your bad past forever and never return to it again.
To the question of how to forget the past and start a new life, we gave the answer. Now let's try to decide how to start life anew. This is not an easy task. After all, for this we must soberly assess our present. Think about what is bothering you in your present. Take a sheet of blank paper and write on it all your shortcomings that can damage you personally and your relationships with people around you. Do not spare yourself, write the whole truth as it is. After all, your life should start from scratch.
When you have written everything that is on your mind, carefully read your notes and evaluate how much you can get rid of all the negative things, and then tear what you have written into small pieces. Thus, you, as it were, symbolically destroy all your shortcomings. Well, dreaming about a new life, you need to fight with yourself already in reality. This is understandable, because the question: how to start life from scratch is very difficult to solve.
At 40, every person has a load of long-established habits behind them. And these habits often prevent us from starting a new and interesting life. For example, you are accustomed to lying in bed until 12 noon on weekends, then getting up lazily and doing nothing all day long. But with such laziness, you cannot start any new life!
In order to start life, you need a lot of money first. Therefore, it is simply necessary to change those ossified stereotypes of behavior that prevent you from moving forward. Create new positive habits for yourself: go in for sports, take walks around the city, go out into nature, live a new interesting and eventful life, and your success will definitely find you!
Sometimes, in order to start a new life, a person needs to change not only his inner world, but also carefully think about changing the outside world. The outside world in this case includes both your profession and your work. Of course, a new life does not always begin with the fact that at the age of 40 you again sit down on a student's bench. It is not always useful to change profession, but you can pass professional retraining which will help expand the scope of your professional activity and will provide an opportunity to find a more interesting and better-paid job.
You can start life over again by turning your hobby into new job. For example, today the spheres of earning money on the Internet are actively developing. Thanks to this, there are many opportunities for opening online stores, remote learning and networking. Starting to live anew with such a rapid development of new technologies is quite simple. At the same time, you do not need to spend great amount time on the road to work, and then get bored and do those things that you do not like. The work is on your home computer. It's easier and more convenient.
In addition to advice on changing jobs, you can offer all those who are thinking about where to start a new life to pay more attention to their area of \u200b\u200binterest. Do you enjoy fishing? Do you like being in nature? Try to dedicate every weekend to your hobby. Do you like to do needlework or cook delicious food? There is nothing easier: do what you want, and others will certainly notice your talents.
Remember that your new life is ahead of you, and this life will bring you that sense of satisfaction that you have been looking for for a very long time.
So don't be afraid to do what you love. Even if the people around you judge you. Do not pay attention to rumors and gossip. After all, this is your destiny, and you are its master.
Meeting new people often helps to start life from scratch. New people and new life are practically two synonymous concepts. Therefore, do not be afraid of new meetings and partings. On the contrary, look for new people, feel free to get acquainted, do not be afraid that later this person may disappoint you. And to find these new people, try to lead a new active life: go to public events in theaters, philharmonics, exhibition halls. visit entertainment centers, shops, cafes. Go to city holidays and folk festivals. Be in public as often as possible, and new friends are provided to you.
And new acquaintances promise new love. Nothing in the world helps to start living again like falling in love with a charming woman or a courageous man. Love inspires a person at any age, and when you have life experience behind you, it acts on you like real tart wine. Therefore, go to people with sincere and good aspirations, and yours will certainly find you.
Tip seven. Control your negative emotions
A good tip for those looking to start a new life is to remember to control your negative emotions. Indeed, often a person striving to start living anew, having stumbled once, forever loses faith in success. And often this is due to the fact that negative emotions take over us. Of course, this is the wrong course of action. Difficulties on the new path will be even greater than when using the old templates. But this is your new life: you believe in it, you build it, so do not be afraid of disappointment and do not accumulate anger, fatigue and aggression in yourself. Difficulties harden us, but do not lead to death. Keep this in mind and move forward. Be no matter what!
Tip eight. If something doesn't work out, try setting a few goals for yourself.
Perhaps success in your pursuit of a new destiny will not come immediately. If you feel like you're running out of energy, try setting small, but sure, goals for yourself. For example, decide to give up such a bad habit as smoking, because it prevents you from successfully existing. Deciding to give up this harmful activity, determine the date when you will begin to give up cigarettes. Try to do exactly what you want.
Write a plan for your actions. And finally overcoming bad habit rejoice in your victory. After all, you have already taken one step towards a new life.
And the next morning, say to yourself: “If I am starting a new life, then giving up smoking is not enough, there is still a lot to do.” Set a new goal for yourself, and then boldly go to it. Gradually, you will achieve your main goal - you will begin to live the way you want and breathe deeply.
“But how difficult it is to start all over again!” you say. Indeed, a new life is not given to everyone who wants it. It must be caught like a blue bird that brings happiness to people. Therefore, you should not wait for manna from heaven, you need to forge your success like heavy iron, forge with your own hands. Do not hope that everything will work out for you soon, it is very difficult to part with your habits, especially when habits have entered your flesh and blood and become a need. But for those who seek to solve for themselves the problem of how to start life from scratch, we can advise you to stubbornly go forward and never give up for anything.
Remember that your past no longer exists, the present depends on you, but the future may be different, Make it comfortable for yourself!
Tip ten. Don't expect ready-made advice. Everything is individual, so improvise
People still have not come up with a universal manual, which would be called "How to start a new life." Therefore, everyone has their own new life. There are, of course, some common features, but still for some it is family happiness, for some it is career success, and for some it is a solution to health problems.
How to start a new life from scratch is a philosophical question. But each of us has a different answer to it. And if you meet a person on your way who asks you: “How to start life from scratch?”, You can answer him that the answer to this question is written in his heart.
Therefore, do not look for ready-made answers, improvise yourself. And in this search you will find what you are looking for.
Tip Eleven. Believe in your success, a bright and wonderful future
Despite the fact that the last advice sounds a bit pathetic, this should not be forgotten either. For everyone who is thinking about how to start a new life, it should be the last chord that will give a person a sense of determination and strengthen his will to win.
How to start over? Yes, very simple. You just need to believe in the success of the undertaking.
We cannot go anywhere without faith, people cannot live without it, therefore, if you decide to start a new life, follow this path and do not be afraid of possible difficulties and failures. The main thing is determination and courage, as well as the desire to rebuild everything in your destiny. Man differs from animals in that he has the sacred right to choose. This right belongs to us according to our merits, it also places a huge responsibility on our shoulders.
Therefore, go ahead, change yourself, your attitude to this world, and everything will work out for you!
Good luck and success!
There are other ways to start a new life, so Altucher urges you to listen to him with a grain of salt. This cheat sheet works for him. However, he has seen it work for several hundred other people as well. James was able to verify this by taking numerous interviews for his podcast, reading letters addressed to him, and simply living the last twenty years.
James Altucher
So, if you dream of changing your life, trying something new, then this is for you. Faktrum publishes these helpful and uncompromising tips.
1. Update never stops
Every day you rediscover yourself. You are always on the move. And every day you decide what kind of movement it is - forward or backward.
2. You start from the beginning
Every title from the past that you will defend is just vanity. Have you been a doctor? Graduated from an Ivy League university? Were you a millionaire? Did you have a family? Nobody cares about this. You have lost everything. You are zero. Don't even try to prove that you are something.
3. You need a mentor
Otherwise, you will go to the bottom. Someone has to teach you how to move and breathe. Don't worry too much about this item.
4. Here are three types of mentors
- Direct. Someone who is close to you, who tells how he achieved everything. What is behind "everything"? More on this later. By the way, the mentor is not at all someone like an elderly Japanese man from the 1984 movie Karate Kid. Almost all mentors will hate you.
- Indirect. These are books and films. You can get 90% of mentoring from books and other materials. 200-500 books are comparable to one good mentor. You ask: “What good book would you recommend?”. There is no answer to this question. There are 200–500 good books which should be read. Whatever your beliefs, read every day.
- Everything around is a teacher. If you are a blank slate and strive for renewal, then everything around you becomes a metaphor for action. You see a tree, but you don't see its roots and the underground springs that feed it - it's all a metaphor for a computer program, if you put the facts together correctly. In the future, you will find connection in everything you see.
5. Don't worry if you don't have passion for anything.
You are concerned about your health. Start with this. Small steps. You do not need a strong spiritual zeal to succeed. Do your job with love and success will follow.
6. Renewal needs 5 years
Here is a breakdown of those five years:
- Year One: You squander your energy on a lot of useless things, read avidly and only approach the real action
- Year two: you know with whom and why you need to communicate. Dedicate yourself to the cause every day. You finally realize that your aspirations are like a Monopoly game board.
- Year Three: You are already good enough to start making your first money. But life is still far from ideal.
- Year four: you live a beautiful life
- Year five: you earn wealth.
It's easy to get frustrated in the first four years. "Why hasn't anything happened yet?" - such a question will torment you. This is fine. Just keep going. Or stop and choose new area. After all, you are already dead, and starting a new life is a difficult thing.
7. If you're doing it faster or slower, you're doing something wrong.
Story Google illustrates this well.
8. It's not about the money. But money is a good measure
When people say "it's not about the money," they need to be sure they have another good yardstick. “What if you just do what you love?” - you ask. Keep in mind that there are many days ahead in which you will hate your job. If you are in business only out of love for him, it will take much longer than five years. Happiness is just positive impulses in our brain. Sometimes you will be unhappy. The brain is the tool we use, not who we are.
9. When can you say "I'm doing X", where X is your new career?
10. When can I start doing X?
Today. If you want to be an artist, buy your canvas and paints today, start buying the first of 500 books, and pick up your brush. If you want to learn how to write, then do three things:
- Read
- Write
- Take your favorite work by your favorite author and rewrite it word for word. Ask yourself why he chose those words. Today he is your mentor.
If you want to start your own business, start thinking about a business idea. The update starts today. And it goes on every day.
11. How will I earn?
In three years, you will devote 5-7 thousand hours to the cause. This is enough to become one of the top two or three hundred in anything. The top 200 professionals in almost every field make a decent living. By the third year, you will know how to make money. By the fourth year, you will be earning enough. Some stop in the fourth year.
In the fifth year, you will be among the top 30-50 in your business and amass a fortune.
12. How do you know exactly what to do?
Everything that the soul will feel while reading 500 books. Go to book store and find it. If you're still bored after three months, go back to the bookstore.
13. How do you know exactly what to do?
Being disappointed is okay. Success is better than failure, but it's after failure that we learn the most important lessons. It is very important not to rush. You will find yourself anew many times throughout your interesting life. And there will be many mistakes. Find the positives in this.
When you change your life dramatically several times, then your chronicle turns into an interesting book of stories, not a boring textbook. Many people want their life story to be a well-researched textbook. For better or worse, the Altusher book is a book of stories.
14. Your choice today will be your biography tomorrow.
Make interesting decisions and you will have an interesting biography.
15. What if I like some kind of absurdity? For example, biblical archeology or 11th century wars?
Go through all the steps above and you'll be making tons of money in your fifth year. How? No idea. Don't try to find the end of the road in the first step.
16. What if the family wants me to work as a financier?
How many years of your life did you promise your family? Ten years? All life? And then wait for the next life. The good news is that the choice is yours.
Choose freedom or family. Freedom from prejudice. Freedom from authorities. Freedom from the need to please people. Then you please yourself.
17. My mentor wants me to follow his path.
Excellent. Learn his path. And then do it your way. Sincerely. Nobody puts a gun to your head, do they?
18. My spouse is worried about who will take care of the children.
Then go about your new life after a 16-hour day as a janitor. The one who rediscovers himself will always have free time. Set aside a little time for your work. Think about it whenever possible.
19. What if my friends think I'm crazy?
What other friends?
20. What if I want to be an astronaut?
This is not a reinvention of oneself, but simply a specific work. Do you like outer space? You have a wide range of career options. Richard Branson wanted to be an astronaut and launched Virgin Galactic.
21. What if I like to hang out and drink?
Read this post in a year.
22. What if I cheat on my wife/husband or betray my partner?
Re-read this post in two or three years, when you get divorced, lose your job and no one needs you.
23. What if I have no skills at all?
Reread point 2.
24. What if I have no education or a useless degree?
Reread point 2.
25. What if I have to pay off debts or mortgages?
Reread paragraph 18.
26. Why do I always feel like an outsider?
Albert Einstein was the same. Each of us at some point feels out of place. The highest degree of creativity is born from skepticism.
Just give up.
28. What if I am too sick to upgrade?
Renewal stimulates the production of useful chemical substances in your body: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin. As you keep moving forward, you may not be completely healed, but you will be healthier. Don't use illness as an excuse. Finally, take care of your health. Sleep more, eat more. Go in for sports. These are the key steps to start a new life.
29. What if a past partner cheated on me and I'm still suing him?
Stop litigation and never think about him again. Half the problem was you, not him.
29. What if I go to jail?
Fabulous. Re-read point 2. Read a lot of books in prison.
30. What if I'm shy?
Turn your weaknesses into yours strengths. Introverts listen more carefully, focus better, and more effectively win people over.
31. What if I can't wait five years?
If you plan to live another five years at all, it would be good to start today.
32. What is the best way to get acquainted?
Imagine a concentric circle. You are in the center.
The next circle is friends and family.
The next one is online communities.
The next one is meetings of interest and invitations for coffee.
The next one is conferences and opinion leaders.
The next one is mentors.
The next one is customers and producers of goods.
Develop relationships through these circles.
33. What if I think I'm the best at what I do?
After 6-12 months, you will return to point 2.
34. What if I'm passionate about two things from different fields and can't choose between them?
Combine two areas and you will be the best combined.
Get started teaching with YouTube videos. Start with one student and see if the audience grows.
36. What if I want to earn money while I sleep?
In the fourth year, outsource your business.
37. How to meet mentors and opinion leaders?
When you have accumulated enough knowledge (after 100-200 books), write 10 ideas for 20 potential mentors. None of them will answer. Write 10 more ideas for 20 new potential mentors. Repeat this weekly. Make a mailing list for those who do not respond. Keep going until someone answers. Start a blog about your efforts. Build a community around what you are going to be an expert in.
39. What if I can't come up with an idea?
Keep practicing coming up with ideas. The muscles responsible for ideas atrophy over time. You must build these muscles.
It's hard to reach your toes if you don't exercise every day. To do this, you need to repeat the exercises regularly. Don't expect ideas to start coming on the first day.
After books, read websites, forums, magazines. But, by and large, there is one garbage.
41. What if I do everything you say, but it still doesn't work?
It will work. Just wait. Don't try to see the end of the road. Fog prevents you from seeing your destination. But you can see where to take the next step, and you know that each step brings you closer to the end of the road.
42. What should I do if I am depressed?
Spend an hour in silence. This is required to reconnect with the inner self. If you think this sounds stupid, don't do it. And keep sinking into depression.
43. What if all this scares me?
Sleep eight to nine hours a day and never gossip. Sleep is the key to health. But not the only key, but simply No. 1. Some say: “I only need four hours of sleep” or “in my homeland, sleep is equated with laziness.” Well, these people are waiting for failure and early death.
When it comes to gossip, our brains biologically want to be friends with 150 people. When you are alone with one of your friends, you start talking about the 149 that are left. If you don't have 150 friends, then your brain makes you read gossip magazines to create the illusion that you have those 150 friends.
Don't be as stupid as your brain.
44. What if I keep feeling that none of this will work for me?
Spend ten minutes a day practicing gratitude. Don't suppress fear. Pay attention to anger. Anger never inspires, and gratitude does a good job of it. Gratitude is the bridge between your world and the parallel universe where all creative ideas live.
45. What if I constantly have to deal with people who do not believe in me?
Find a new environment for yourself. Anyone who starts life with a clean slate faces those who incite to turn off the intended path. Biology tells the brain to keep you safe from danger, and renewal is a risk. So get ready to say goodbye to people who are trying to stop you.
And learn to say no.
46. What if I am happy to sit in the office closet at my current job?
47. How can I trust you when you fail several times?
Don't trust.
48. Will you be my mentor?
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If you are reading this article, then most likely you are tired of feeling unfulfilled, useless, but you really want to change it. Really, you don't know how. Today we will talk about how to start a new life and change yourself.
When something went wrong
It seems to you that everything is in order with life, but you are just tired? Check our list to see if there are any points with which you can agree 100%:
- routine overwhelmed you;
- you don't see and existence seems meaningless;
- you yearned for exciting emotions;
- you caught yourself not wanting to get out of bed in the morning and get ready for work;
- each new morning is gloomy for you, and each new day seems incredibly long and endless;
- You haven't experienced real happiness in a long time.
If you agreed with at least one point, it's time to change your life for the better. Otherwise, you will get bogged down in a boring routine and turn into an eternally dissatisfied fate. And you don't wish that on anyone. If you want to diagnose yourself in more detail - go through
“A person becomes a winner when he loves his life, when he gets up every morning, rejoicing in a new day, when he loves what he does, even if it can be a little scary at times.” - Barbara Sher, bestselling author choose" and "It's high time!".
Gaining resolve
It's time to rise up against the depressing reality and start living in a new way! Stop postponing travel, self-development, love affairs, changing professions to distant dusty shelves marked “someday”. "Someday" has already arrived. It's time to change your life for the better.
How to change yourself and your life?
Some, starting to change their lives, hope for next Monday, special techniques of self-hypnosis, persuasion, waiting for signs from above. But in reality, we need clear practical methods for solving problems, the ability to plan, receive necessary information. We need a well-thought-out tactic for managing weaknesses, feelings, such as laziness or fear. Change can cause you emotional crises, when it seems that nothing will work out. Or you may encounter a misunderstanding of loved ones and those around you. And you have to learn how to deal with it. We talk about solving relationship problems
"The desire to change, to live better, to look better, to feel better - and then to gather the courage to try and see what happens must be born inside you" - Steve Kamb, author of the motivational book "Superheroes Play Big", turned your life in an exciting quest based on movies and video games and telling you how to start a new life and change yourself.
It's time to do what you've always dreamed of and live a reality that you can be proud of. Of course, this will require a lot of work, you cannot change your life overnight. But trust me, it's worth it. In we tell you what will help change your life for the better.
Time to change
So, you are determined and ready for drastic changes in your life. this long but pleasant way?
Think about what you can do now to change your life? Everyone has a dream. Sometimes even one that is embarrassing to talk about even to your friends. But who cares if it makes you happy. Even if you are an excellent lawyer who is trusted with the most difficult cases, but in your heart you want to become a confectioner - bake cakes! Put your whole soul into them, and even your colleagues, who at first can twist a finger to their temples, will be forced to admit that your desserts are the best they have eaten. And then they will bombard you with questions, and their profession to a more exciting one.
Psychologists believe that only an hour, but every day, it is enough to devote to your favorite business in order to achieve success in it. Try every day, without shirking, without hiding behind laziness or fear of leaving your comfort zone, doing what you have always dreamed of doing. Just an hour! It would seem quite a bit, but it will help you understand where you can continue your development and how to change your life. Turning to the same cakes: learn recipes, new technologies, ways to create a unique design and, of course, put everything into practice,. In any case, the main thing is to love him with all my heart, for real. This will help keep you motivated along the way.
The method of the hour - where to start:
- take a diary (preferably on your phone, with reminders), enter this special hour into every day, which will be devoted exclusively to the cause of your dreams;
- paint a plan for the allotted hour for at least the next week: it can be reading books on the topic, practice, communication with the right people, training in the gym, etc.
Just an hour a day dedicated to what you love will make you much happier. And bring about positive change.
The way forward
“In the depths of man lies a creative force that is able to create what should be, which will not give us peace until we express it,” J. W. Von Goethe.
Are you already devoting time to your favorite thing every day, but it seems not enough? Then it's time to be even happier. To do this, you can add the following cases to the plan:
1) Creativity or a creative hobby.
Don't look back at the profitability of your hobbies. Remember, it is not money that makes you happy, but moral satisfaction from the creative process.
2) Reflection and ordering of life.
Make time for quiet exploration own life and knowing where to go next. You can meditate, keep a diary or make far-reaching plans.
3) Acquisition of new knowledge.
There is nothing more pleasant for self-awareness than growth in the intellectual field. Read books, go to courses or lectures, develop your brain, meet interesting people.
4) Surround yourself with the "right" friends and the "right" ones.
Changing your life for the better is much more effective if you have a strong rear behind you that helps you overcome difficulties and motivates you in difficult moments. Start with yourself - the environment will catch up after you.
5) Love sports.
Movement is a 100% way to develop stress resistance, willpower, and brain development. Perhaps the point is in the oxygen that fills the brain cells during sports, or maybe in the development of self-organization. Strengthen In addition, active rest helps to become stronger, more resilient.
6) Travel.
New impressions are the best teachers and stimulators of creativity.
We support the mood
Remember, if you want to change your life, you must constantly overcome your fears. Do you feel that it is difficult for you, scared and it seems that you are rushing at great speed towards the unknown? Are you on the right way. Don't be afraid to take the next step.
Overcoming oneself will help increase self-esteem, become more successful. Everything is interconnected. The more you overcome, the more inner strength accumulates in you.
Let's continue to enjoy life
When we started to live at a new pace and enjoy life, the main thing is not to lose this attitude. Keep setting yourself new goals and achieving them. Turn your life with new goals into an exciting adventure that will delight you every day. Read more about goal setting in this article. Do not avoid tucked up on life path adventures. Who knows, maybe they will bring new meaningful changes to your destiny. Perhaps there will be many more difficulties on your way, and sometimes it will seem that everything is in vain. The most important thing is not to give up and remember that all difficulties are temporary and solvable. And you have proven it to yourself. If you want to change the world, do it. Follow your dream and let the whole world smile at you!