Often mistakes underlie thoughts, actions, decisions, but some of their consequences are so beautiful that you want to make mistakes again and again. However, there are some mistakes that should not be made. 10 most-most mistakes in human life:
1. Live in the past
For many people, amnesia and a little whiskey are enough to become happy, and as a result, they are guaranteed eternal movement forward. And others will never leave their “comfort zone”. Everyone is different, but we all have equal opportunities. I'm not talking now about social limits, I'm talking about the purpose of life for each of us. About happiness. Even if the past brought us a lot of happiness, but now these memories prevent us from moving on, it's time to accept the fact that we have stepped over the line that has grown like a stone wall behind us.
A happy past is a certain stage in our formation. When he is no more, and happy memories remain, you need to receive new positive emotions so that in a year today will become a vivid memory. Happiness lies in life, and life itself is only a short moment.
2. Be afraid to take risks
Everyone knows the phrase: "Titanic was built by professionals, and the ark by amateurs." She inspires and inspires. Everything in life is elementary, we just like to complicate things. A familiar place is not always the ultimate dream. Perhaps your decision today is still to call the right person, send your resume to a high-paying position in a large corporation, withdraw money from a deposit ahead of time, send an offer to the most capricious client or confess your feelings to an unattainable person at first glance - all this can change your whole life tonight.
You are afraid to take risks, because you are afraid that this may be your next mistake. But the world often appreciates mistakes. Dialogue is born in them, and truth is born in dialogue. Some mistakes, reckless determination or making decisions without a guarantee of success lead to good luck and world fame. Take, for example, the first Harry Potter book, its author, JK Rowling, spent years looking for a publisher willing to publish this fantastic story. Of course, it was unpleasant for her to hear 12 refusals, but she went forward towards her goal. 12 publishers did not see anything special in the future world bestseller. And now both children and adults know and admire the story of an unusual boy.
You need to believe in yourself, in your abilities and in those around you. Without faith in the future and without the ability to take risks, there would be no bicycles, mobile phones, airplanes, computers, there would be no everything that seems to be the most necessary and mundane. The world needs your risky decisions, but what is the world, you yourself need them.
3. Not living the life you want
There are people around whom life boils. They think outside the box, brightly, sometimes illogically, but so for real. When such a person does not pick up the phone, you can’t even imagine what got into his head 10 minutes ago, and to what lands his spirit of adventurism carried him this time. Perhaps he threw away the phone so as not to explain to others the desire to buy a new one, or instead of work he went to an orphanage to help the kids do their homework.
At first glance, it seems that such people are frivolous and not responsible. But they are happy. I'm not calling for unpredictability, I'm just calling for common sense. I urge you not to waste your life on an unloved business, on uninteresting people and in a hated place. Close your eyes and imagine what you want to do right now. Do you want ice cream? - Go and buy! Dreaming of a vacation? - Start thinking about plans to bring this bright day closer. Do you want to be intimate with a nice person? - Search common topics, start a conversation, and then enjoy the first flirtation and its consequences. Don't be shy.
Look for ways not to wait for happiness in the future, but to enjoy it now.
4. Don't appreciate what you have
"You don't appreciate what you have." No matter how banal this phrase, it has a lot of depth and life experience. For some reason, we are looking for treasure on uninhabited islands, and it is often buried in our yard. We offend people, thinking that they will not go anywhere. We give in to the mood and hang up. But there can be no happiness in negativity. There is no peace in the fight. In the eternal search for the positive, there is no finish line.
The little things around us already make us special. Our world is a reflection of our thoughts. "Let's clear our head", and the result will not be long in coming.
5. Thinking happiness can be bought
People are used to saying that “money does not buy happiness”, but they are all actively trying to earn “all the money in the world”, sit at work for days and forget how their children look. In today's world it is difficult to live without money. But there are people who work to live, and there are those who live to work. Of course, everything is not easy, but you need to learn to balance on this fine line.
If happiness could be bought, we would have lost it hundreds of years ago. It would be “illegally” bought up, sold off or buried in the depths of greed and selfishness. What is the beauty of happiness? In his availability. In a tender kiss, in the first cry of a child, in sincere hugs, in the realization that a loved one is sleeping next to you and sniffing sweetly. Happiness cannot be bought - and this is the whole buzz of life.
6. Live as if we are nobody to each other
I don’t want to remember all my sins as virtues on my deathbed and look at my life through the prism of excuses. Yes, the rules of our life are tough, but to play or not to play by these rules is up to everyone to decide for themselves. Utopia, you say? - But if you do not change the world yourself, how can you see changes in it? Greed, self-interest, heartlessness, blindness and deafness to the pleas of others are not the best tools for purifying karma.
We will live and cry, seeing how selfishly our grandchildren are fighting for a place under the sun. But there is enough room for everyone. You just need to remain human in any difficult situations. Maybe sometimes you should look for ways to "bypass". You don't need to live for the sake of utopia, you need to live for the sake of bright moments, and they will grow only from the understanding and compliance of people.
7. Be afraid
All fears and diseases are born in our head. There are not as many demons on the outside as there are on the inside of each of us. The external background only helps to "bloom" fear and assert its position. What is ahead is unknown, but there will not necessarily be a battlefield there. Perhaps there will be no worries, no worries, no extra efforts ahead. And often the projection in the head is already laid, thoughts are sent into space, and our body is constantly waiting for either pain or discomfort.
Fear must be fought only by eradicating its internal causes.
Enjoy every life situation and the very process of life. Absolutely everything makes sense, you just have to look closely.
8. Be a perfectionist and maintain total control
The Leaning Tower of Pisa is a vivid example of an architect's mistake and the lack of accurate calculations. If the foundation were 2-3 times larger, it would be a vivid example of a “steadfast tin soldier”. More than 170 years of construction, and yet, let's remember, the tower was with an "original" slope even before the project was completed. Perfectionists are in shock, and the world arranges constant photo shoots.
Life is one big turmoil, and in order to find the perfect device for it, you can kill a lot of time and be left with nothing. The world cannot be controlled, it carries you with the flow, and you simply choose which raft to sail on: the raft of pleasure or eternal discontent. I am for life in the full sense of the word.
9. Thinking “You should…”
Sometimes you need to say a harsh thing, and you just don’t want to hide it under a hundred softening phrases. Almost always, if you don't want to, then you don't have to. And listening to those who inspire you that your desires are not important is not worth it. “I don’t want to” will definitely not work.
Everyone writes their own story, everyone fights for their own truth. You don't owe anything if you don't want to.
A simple rule that is not so difficult to learn.
10. Regret what you did
It's pointless to beat yourself up. Succeeded or failed. Did or didn't. Said or remained silent. Erase or write down. Everything is left where it belongs. Missed an opportunity? - So it was not your opportunity. You did everything the way you wanted to do it. At that moment you could not do otherwise. We draw conclusions and try to bypass all the rakes in our path. Do you want to step on the same rake again? - At least jump on them with a running start, the choice is yours, as are the bruises on the forehead from the blow.
»»»This article talks about how mistakes in a person's life affect his life path. Almost all mistakes are necessary for life experience, but the ability to forgive yourself for misconduct is necessary.
A person does a lot of wrong things in his life, if he did something wrong, then he is told that they learn from mistakes and this is necessary for life experience. Many people do not know how to feel about what they have done, especially if it has hurt loved ones. Mistakes are not only their own, but also others. Are they really needed for the right path in life?
How do people perceive mistakes?
Mistakes in life are many and very different depending on how people accept them. There are stupid things that then lead to the fact that he is simply touched by his naivety in the past. Some mistakes help a person gain invaluable experience, he can even give advice to others based on his past behavior.
There are global mistakes when a person chooses the wrong path at all, which he really wanted. For example, he chose the wrong profession, job, life partner. These are the mistakes that practically cannot be corrected, because it is impossible to change what has already been lived. People who make global mistakes suffer greatly from this.
If the mistake is no longer corrected, then the person considers himself a victim of fate and falls into depression. But you can always correct the situation and direct it in the right direction. To understand yourself and the situation that was the fault of a person, you need to ask a few questions. They must be answered honestly.
What questions should you ask yourself to fix a difficult situation?
- What is the reason for making mistakes? You can’t lie to yourself on this issue, even if the fault lies entirely with the person, and it is very difficult to answer.
- Could this have happened by accident? Sometimes it happens that life dictates its own rules and puts them in such a framework that practically nothing depends on a person. If everything happened just like that, then you need to remember these words: “Everything that is done, everything is for the better!”
- What life experience can be drawn from this situation? Only loafers can not make mistakes in life.
- Who can help fix the situation? You can always ask for help, there is nothing wrong with that. The mistake sometimes helps to find new friends.
- How can a person solve a problem? Mistakes should always be tried to be corrected, because guilt can overwhelm. Sometimes this happens after a while, when a person is fully aware of his guilt. You need to come up with a plan to get out of an unpleasant situation.
How to learn to forgive mistakes
A person sometimes makes mistakes because of surrounding stereotypes and fear of other people's opinions and condemnation. Often a person is afraid to take a step that he considers right, but others say that this is a bad deed. If a person is unhappy in marriage, then he remains in this state for a long time, because he is worried about what relatives and friends will say if he gets divorced.
Also, people make mistakes, fearing loneliness. He fears the uncertainty of the future. For example, a woman can no longer be married to a man, but is afraid to be alone, she thinks that she cannot raise a child alone, decide global problems by oneself. Such women are afraid to imagine happy life without her unloved husband.
People do not change their jobs because they are afraid of being left without Money they are afraid to take risks and give themselves a chance to find more high paying job. You can pity yourself as much as you like, but you must learn to forgive yourself for all mistakes, even if they have not yet been made.
Mistakes affect a person's life path, but they do not punish, but provide an opportunity to do something new in life, to break the circle that keeps them inside. Mistakes will always be made, you need to accept them and not suffer all the time and look for the culprits. To find , a person must make a mistake at least once.
It is always easier to forgive other people than oneself, because a person always tries to justify himself. A person who knows how to admit his mistakes and forgive for them is ready to change in life.
You need to allow other people to make mistakes and correct themselves, while you need to offer your help, which is sometimes very necessary for them. Must be able to find new life paths, by making mistakes, then there will be something to compare with each other.
All for now.
Sincerely, Vyacheslav.
Nurse Bronnie Ware from Australia cared for terminally ill patients for the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded the most common life mistakes patients reported and published them on the Inspiration and Chai blog.
1. Don't dare to live life the way you want to.
Many today build their lives based on the expectations of other people. In all areas, they prefer what their partners or society approves of.
As a result, such people meet the expectations of everyone - parents, teachers, acquaintances - but they themselves feel constant pressure. Most of the time they feel cornered and miserable.
How to avoid mistakes
Stay true to yourself. If you have the courage to live the way you want to, you are sure to face criticism and disagreement. Listen calmly to the advice and opinions of others, but if they do not coincide with yours, do not pay much attention to them.
Just as others have the right to express their opinion, you have the right to ignore it. You don't live to please anyone. So do not be afraid to ruin relationships with dissenting people.
2. Too much work
AT modern society received . People are busier now than ever before in history. Yes, the situation of workers in factories at the beginning of the 20th century was much worse, but then they had no choice, but we do.
Parents rarely see their children and shift the care of them onto the shoulders of grandparents or nannies. People do not have time for relationships and other personal matters, a career is always a priority, it rises above everything else.
Yes, work provides a livelihood, but for some people it becomes the main parameter of self-identification.
How to avoid mistakes
Determine your priorities. If you don't have time for a relationship, it means you don't have it in the first place. If you skip the gym, it means that your physical condition is not so important to you, even if you claim the opposite.
Each person has 24 hours in a day, no more, no less. So much time per day for successful entrepreneurs like, financial magnates like Warren Buffett, famous athletes like Serena Williams, or TV celebrities like Oprah Winfrey. It’s just that someone spends every day productively, while someone complains that they don’t have time to do anything.
Think about what you want to spend your time on and make an informed choice. What do you value most in life? Are you spending your time according to your priorities? If you answered no to the last question, your desires and actions do not match. Fix it.
3. Not being able to express your feelings
Have you ever tried to forget a person and your feelings for him just because you were afraid to open up? If yes, then you are not alone. There are indeed many people in the world who are alone, not because they are unattractive. No, they are educated, beautiful, interesting in communication, but closed to feelings. They systematically miss opportunities to meet new people and expand their social circle.
For comfort and peace of mind they refuse any attempt to start a relationship, finding millions of reasons why this person is “not the right one,” “not for me,” and so on.
How to avoid mistakes
It's better to regret something you've done than something you've missed. Or maybe you don't have to regret it at all. Open up.
First, you will immediately feel better. Secondly, you will find out whether your feelings are mutual or not. Even if you get a rejection, it will be easier to put up with it and forever than to suffer all your life with the question: “What if? ..”
After all, ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen when you confess your feelings? You will be refused (most likely in a polite manner), and you will simply understand that this is not the right person.
And if your feelings are mutual, you will get an unforgettable experience, a bonus to which will be pride in your own courage.
4. Lose contact with your friends
We think that friendship is something eternal. That she will remain in any case, even if we do not pay enough attention to her. Therefore, we easily sacrifice friendly meetings for the sake of work, cancel gatherings because of romantic dates and other important matters. And then we regret the lost friends.
How to avoid mistakes
Instead of waiting for friends to ask you to meet, take the first step. Perhaps they are also waiting for you to call or write to them, inviting them to spend time together.
If your efforts aren't successful, it's possible that people just have different priorities. In this case, you will not regret moving away from them, because you did everything to prevent this from happening.
5. Don't allow yourself to be a happy person.
Are you deeply unhappy? Do you always complain about the troubles in life? Do you talk about the things you don't have and the opportunities you missed instead of enjoying what you have?
Too many people feel unhappy because of their ideas of where they should be and what they should have to be happy. However, many of these sufferers live in comfortable conditions, have stable jobs, a decent income, a healthy social environment and an excellent family.
However, the feeling of happiness does not depend on material well-being. It depends on the person's opinion of what it is to be happy.
How to avoid mistakes
Realize that happiness is everyone's choice. Many people believe that it depends on some factors. They think that they will be happy if they achieve this, the other, the third, if their needs are satisfied.
But happiness does not depend on achievements and does not come with them or after them. Happiness is something you can experience right now if you allow yourself to do so.
There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the way.
What do you regret? Share in the comments.
Often mistakes underlie thoughts, actions, decisions, but some of their consequences are so beautiful that you want to make mistakes again and again. However, there are some mistakes that should not be made. 10 most unnecessary mistakes in human life:
1. Lack of choice.
Oddly enough, most people don't directly make a choice about which path they take in life. Everyone is thrown at random. How will it go.
As a result, they are thrown through life like an autumn leaf in the wind. He goes to college because a friend advised him. I went to the section because they praised me. I got a job because it's close to home.
The result - the work is boring, life is dreary, the family is jaded.
Argued with the boss, changed jobs. He quarreled with his wife, changed his wife. Quarreled with the body, changed this light to that one.
Why did you live? Unclear.
2. Waiting for a miracle.
Variation of the first error. Everything is the same, but at the same time hope for a miracle. Tomorrow everything will be completely different. Something like that will change in the life mechanism and a beautiful garden full of blooming roses will appear around. Not today. But soon, very soon. Well, not very soon, but definitely will be.
The thought that if you want a garden, you have to grow it, somehow does not occur to you.
3. Hard work of the squirrel in the wheel.
In this case, a person is ready to work day and night, but he himself does not know what he wants. He works two jobs, takes overtime. He puts all his strength and health into endless rat races. Rather, even sooner. No time to rest, no time to be sick. He fusses, fusses, burns all the energy, and who needs all this is unknown. I pulled the strap until retirement, earned a lot of money, but neither health, nor my beloved, nor the joy of life.
4. Finding a good loophole.
The dream that you can pull off some successful scam and get everything at once: money, fame and half a horse to boot. As a result, a person is constantly running around in search of another stunning idea, participating in all “mega-promising” projects and expecting that right now he will solve all his problems with one finger, which are becoming more and more every day.
5. Stubborn steadfastness.
The man chose that his path is punching holes in punched cards. And he achieved great skill in this. Few people can punch holes in punched cards so skillfully and quickly. But punched cards were outdated, and no one needed his talent.
But no, he will prove to everyone. He will work day after three as a night watchman, and in the remaining three days he will improve his ability to punch holes.
All his walls are hung with punched cards with perfectly punched holes, and especially valuable punched cards for inheritance are put aside in a chest in a strict order.
No one understands him and does not want to understand, but he is offended by the whole wide world and believes that someday his skill will still come in handy.
6. I am a small person.
In this case, a person assures himself that nothing depends on him personally, therefore, where he sits and what he does, everything is already determined and it cannot be changed in any way. Therefore, all that remains is to sit quietly and humbly carry your cross to the grave.
7. Search for the guilty.
Oh, there is where to turn around! Finding someone to blame for the unfortunate trajectory of your life is not easy, but very simple.
Parents did not pass on the genius genes, and those that were accidentally passed on were ruthlessly trampled on by the school assembly line.
Childhood was difficult, cakes were not given every day, and homework was given every day. In addition, the bad influence of the street completely confused the fragile soul and accustomed to kin, guilt and domino. On top of all this, all this happened in a country with an incorrect regime and inadequate rulers, who did not provide any assistance in education, but only put spokes in the wheels of a young inquisitive mind.
And, perhaps, there was a chance to break out into people, but it was stolen by Jezuta by freemasons - freemasons, who finally put an end to all the joys of life and all that remains is to drink and swear, drink and swear at those who again raised the price of vodka.
8. Who would solve my problems.
Very comfortable shooting position full responsibility for everything that happens to you.
- You know, I remember names and numbers so badly that I don’t even remember how many husbands I had.
- I suffer from topographical cretinism, that I can never get into the toilet the first time in my apartment, how many embarrassments there were because of this.
Looking for a job? What do you mean, I can’t do anything, and then, why should I have to work all day? This is so strange.
- You are straining me, it would be better if you entered into my position, I am a thin person and do not like when I am loaded with all sorts of problems. So what, that these are my problems, well, you solve them somehow.
9. All goats.
All failures in life are attributed to those people with whom a person contacts. Therefore, you can’t make a career with a goat-boss, goats-subordinates don’t understand anything, you can’t cook porridge with goats-friends, and it’s better not to have anything to do with female goats at all.
Therefore, it is very difficult for such a spiritually advanced person to live. After all, how to live when you are enlightened, and there are goats all around?
mistakes in everyone's lifeHello dear friends! I am glad to welcome you back to the Development website.
Of course, mistakes in life people meet often, even daily.
They are small and large.
How do we deal with our mistakes?
Mistakes in everyone's life
Basically, a person is afraid to make mistakes, tries to avoid mistakes, gets nervous if he realizes that he has made a mistake.
Why is a person afraid of mistakes?
Because because of the mistake they scold.
They despise.
They condemn.
They look down.
They grin furtively.
Ironic in the eyes.
Laugh at mistakes.
They are persecuted for mistakes.
They don't forgive.
Deprive attention.
Communication.
Weasels.
Love.
Mistakes in life. Failed tactic.
mistakes in everyone's life Berate yourself, feel guilty.
Fear of judgment.
Suffer and engage in self-blame.
Covering up mistakes is pretending nothing happened and hoping no one notices. (But one person will know for sure.)
Effective error handling.
When is a mistake beneficial?
If it is parsed.
If conclusions are drawn.
If a new tactic of action is developed for the future.
Who never makes mistakes?
The person who does nothing.
A person who does not learn lessons.
A very smart person who knows everything and can do everything the first time. (I have never met such people in nature and in life. And you, probably, too.))
Mistakes in life. Value.
Mistakes are a rake, stepping on which is worth thinking about and changing. If a person does not change his behavior, acts stereotypically, then he gets hit on the forehead again and again. And this will continue exactly until he realizes that the cause of his troubles lies in his own behavior, and not in a combination of circumstances or in evil fate.
mistakes in everyone's life Mistakes in life are:
Source of change
Source of improvements
A signal to look for another way to act
An indicator that a person does not stand still, develops, searches, grows.
Mistakes keep us from resting on our laurels. They give a reason to change and develop.
Conclusion: each of us can make a mistake a fulcrum from which we can push off and become better, more experienced, wiser.