Try. The simplest thing that can be advised here is just to try. This advice is also the most effective.
In general, take my word for it, you certainly will not make yourself worse if you constantly try something new. Have you heard anything about the fact that time goes by much faster for adults than for young people? The bottom line is that the more ordinary your life, the more stereotyped your opinion on various issues, the more uselessly you spend the time allotted to you.
For example, I once decided to try writing poetry. Strange, in fact, there was a solution for a pure techie who easily clicks Olympiad problems in physics, but is not very friendly with texts. However, writing poetry helped me a lot. I found out that even despite the fact that I have never been particularly fond of poetry, I write pretty good poems, moreover, in compliance with all the rules of versification. Now poetry is an integral part of my development, and I just do not understand how I could live at all without pouring my thoughts on paper.
In such things, you must understand this, there is no clear algorithm for achieving success. Life (To my personal relief) is not determined, we are all different. If you try to find something specific, you may find something you weren't looking for at all.
20 Signs That You're Coping With Life Much Better Than You Think.
1. You were able to pay your bills this month
Perhaps you even had money for things you could do without. You may have spent some amount on entertainment. Believe me, many, if not most, do not have such opportunities.
2. You keep asking yourself questions.
You doubt your life. There are times when you feel miserable. This means that you are still open to growth. This means you can continue to be objective and able to think critically. The best of us come home at the end of the day and think, “Maybe I'm doing it all wrong. What if there is another way?
3. You have a job
You spend dozens of hours a week at work, earning money that allows you to eat something, sleep on something, and wear something every day. Perhaps your life does not look like what you fantasized about yourself as a child, but this is definitely not a failure. You live an independent life and take responsibility for yourself.
4. You have time to do what you like.
Even if all you enjoy is sitting on the couch, watching TV and eating pizza.
5. You are not worried about what you will eat next.
Your fridge is full. You even have a choice: you can eat either chicken or salad.
6. You can eat what you like.
Food is no longer a matter of survival for you.
7. You have one or two really close friends.
People usually worry about the number of friends, but they forget that there are not many of them. If you have a couple of people who love you no matter what, that's enough.
8. You can afford to ride the subway (or fill up your car) and buy coffee in the street in the morning.
Appreciate even the smallest comforts of your life.
9. You are not the same person you were a year ago.
You are learning something new and trying to develop. Even if you do not think that your life has become better because of this, believe me: it is not.
10. You have the time and money to take some time off.
You go to concerts every few months and buy books. You can afford to go to another city for one day. And you don't have to work day and night to survive.
11. Every morning you choose what to wear.
You don't worry about whether you have a hat or gloves in winter. You don't worry about whether you have clothes for the summer. You don't ask yourself what you need to wear to go to a friend's wedding. Your clothes are not only a way to cover up your nakedness, but also a way to express yourself.
12. You sometimes feel like something is going wrong.
But you can't figure out what it is. Therefore, you try to understand yourself and your feelings. What does it say? Only that all your basic survival needs have already been met.
13. You can look back and say, “We did it. We have survived"
People carry around trauma from the past so often that it prevents them from feeling okay. Forget about the past. Focus on what is happening in your life right now.
14. You have your own corner
It does not have to be your own apartment or even a room. If you have your own corner, your own place where you can be alone with yourself, that is already something. Most other people don't even have that.
15. Are you interested in something else?
For life happy life, you really don't need much: to have a normal healthy relationship, the books you are going to read, the movies you are going to watch. The world still intrigues you. You want to know more about him.
16. You can see, hear and touch
In every minute, second, moment of your life, you can see events, people around you. Feel the moment and feel it fully with the help of all your senses
17. You know how to take care of yourself.
You know how much sleep you need to feel good the next day. You know who to turn to if your heart is broken. You know what to do when you are bored.
18. You have a purpose
You remember your dream, even if you are very tired, but you never got closer to it
19. In the future, you intend to live better than now.
You still believe in the best.
20. You have already gone through many difficulties in your life.
You can look at the challenges you are currently facing and say something like, "This is nothing compared to what I've already been through." Your life experience calms you down. And while life isn't getting easier, you are getting smarter.
You have decided to change your life. Where will you start? You can focus on your weaknesses: quit smoking, get rid of stuttering, stop being constantly late for work. There is another option - to become an ace in what you do well anyway.
Many choose the first option because imperfections are gaps in our ideal picture of ourselves. Just tweak it a little and everything will be fine. Psychologists add one more detail to this: it seems to us that getting rid of shortcomings is easier than developing talents.
Andreas Steimer and Andre Mata asked participants to list their strengths (what they really liked about themselves). On another list, they were to list things that they felt embarrassed about or felt they weren't good at. Participants were then asked about how modifiable these traits were. Most indicated that it would be easier for them to get rid of weaknesses.
This is the trick. We consider ourselves good, kind, smart - in general. We do not perceive our shortcomings as fundamental personality traits. In addition, we can control them. Therefore, it is easier for us to believe that we can get rid of them at any time. But reality is sometimes harsher.
Choose five strengths and push your limits a little each day
For example, you are often remarked about your absent-mindedness. You decide to "pull yourself together": always remember your friends' birthdays, don't forget to turn off the iron, don't lose your keys and numbers. But another puncture, and your optimism disappears. Psychologists call this “false hope syndrome”: people overestimate the ability to change something in themselves, and then experience severe disappointment.
The further we are from our ideal, the more we believe that we can achieve it. Perhaps it is the belief that we can easily get rid of shortcomings that prompts us to set unrealistic goals. Due to the imaginary simplicity of the task, we do not see obstacles, we stumble - and lose our initial motivation. Instead, psychologists offer another way: to develop what already works.
To do this, you can follow the program of “positive interventions”: choose five strengths and push the boundaries of your capabilities a little every day. If you are good at languages, why not start translating? First, take written translations, then lead excursions for foreigners - and as a result, gain additional income. Or try your hand at music if you have a good ear.
Of course, this does not mean that you can spit on your weaknesses and let them flourish. Just keep in mind that the path from good to better is likely to be more smooth and inspiring than the path from bad to good. Using our abilities as a springboard, we can achieve better results. And then, having strengthened self-esteem, move on to more difficult and risky goals.
“Favorite work raises early,
and we gladly accept it"
William Shakespeare
In the previous one, we have already compiled lists of our interests, desires, hobbies, etc., now we can proceed to their detailed analysis. So, you can unleash your talents in the following way:
- Draw a table with three columns:
- “What am I best at doing?”
- "what i like to do"
- "the best of what you like."
- To the first column Rewrite the list of answers to the questions posed in the previous article about what you can do easily, and put here what you think gives positive results that you can note.
- In the second column Take out what you really enjoy from the first column - what exactly you like to do. You can add to the list with other abilities that you possess.
- In the third column it is necessary to take out those points that are in both the first and the second. Usually, life's work is that it brings pleasure and at the same time it is easy to obtain.
After making a list of what you like and are good at, you should put new question: will you be engaged in such a business that will not bring income, so to speak, for the soul. Find the answer in your list in the third column. Thus, you will answer the question, how to find what you love. It's in front of you!
Only by doing what you love can you become a true master
"The exceptional happiness of man -
be at your constant favorite business "
Nemirovich-Danchenko
And if what works well, you do not like and do not give pleasure
Yes, it also happens that the lists from the first and second columns do not intersect at all. This happens because a person receives an education, as expected, works all his conscious life in a field in which he has certain knowledge, but this does not bring pleasure. How to find a life's work in this case? Is it necessary, you might ask?
As a rule, in the case when you are able to do something easily, you have enough knowledge and skills, but this business does not give you pleasure and, accordingly, does not inspire you, the results do not bring joy, you still get used to constancy. Stability, habit - that's what keeps most of us on the same level. We know that everything in life goes on as usual: work, salary, home, vacation at sea, a formed circle of friends, and further along the thumb. Everything is like everyone else, right? Each of us is afraid of losing this stability, even though there is little real joy in it.
Psychologists call this state. A zone within which we live calmly and confidently, but is it happy? Many will ask what is wrong with stability and tranquility? In general, nothing. But a person who is constantly in his comfort zone remains at the same level of development, does not achieve new goals, does not develop as a person, does not understand what real success and real happiness are ...
But, if you are reading this article, you have already realized that the time has come to change something - to find a life's work, understand its meaning, reveal your talents and achieve success. If you have already compiled the table described above, but could not find the points that intersect in the first and second columns, then it's time to leave your comfort zone in order to take a different look at your life.
Ecology of life. Business: Doing what you love is everyone's dream. But there is one problem: not always what we really like is what we are good at. But that doesn't mean your dream is over!
Doing what you love is everyone's dream. But there is one problem: not always what we really like is what we are good at. But that doesn't mean your dream is over! You just need to figure out how to approach its realization with the help of the skills that you already have. Of course, the dream can be corrected. Whitney Johnson, author of Disrupt Yourself: Putting the Power of Disruptive Innovation to Work and a columnist for The Daily Muse, came up with four questions that will help in all this.
1. What skills have helped you excel at something?
In your childhood and student years, you probably developed some skills. Successful consultant Scott Edinger grew up in a poor family, and at the age of nine he was adopted by another family under not the most pleasant circumstances. Edinger learned to survive by becoming a specialist in communication, conflict resolution, understanding and persuading people.
At university, he polished his communication skills, placing in the top five in a hundred university debates and earning a degree in communications and rhetoric. After a while, he became the number two salesperson in one of the largest American companies, and then helped organizations reform underperforming divisions and focus on a key business survival skill - how to sell products.
Not everyone was as unfortunate as a child as Edinger. But all the same, you also encountered some obstacles in life - and came up with a way to get around them. Think about the situations that challenged you: do they have anything in common? If so, then it's something you're good at. Therefore, consider in which area or for which position this skill will be useful.
2. What makes you feel stronger?
Marcus Buckingham, author of Bring it to the Top, explains: “Our strengths attract attention in the most elementary way: when you use them, you feel stronger. Pay attention to moments when you feel refreshed, curious, and successful. It's a clue as to what your strengths are."
Also consider what kind of work you take on when you feel overwhelmed. In such cases, we want to feel in control. And for this you need to do what makes you feel stronger. By identifying these activities and skills, you will also increase your level of happiness, which can help you solve a wide variety of problems better.
3. What made you special as a child?
As children, we do only what we like, even if we look strange at the same time. Remembering these activities now, you may well discover some innate talent. Candice Brown Elliot's classmates teased her "Encyclopedia Brown" (that was the character's nickname in one book. She recalls: "All the kids thought I was the smartest in school, but most of the teachers were disappointed because I got mostly Cs. I was considered lagging behind." Meanwhile, she dreamed of lively conversations with celebrities like Marie Curie, about how she would develop a real artificial intelligence, which will sit in her closet. She dreamed of floating cities, great inventions and new forms of art.
Forty years have passed, and Elliot has 90 patents. Her most famous invention, the PenTile, a color LCD architecture, powers hundreds of millions of smartphones, tablets, laptops and TVs. She founded her own company to develop this technology and later sold it to Samsung. All these childhood dreams of Elliot were considered oddities by her classmates, and they simply annoyed the teachers. But as an adult, this tendency to daydream became her superpower.
Did you have anything special as a child? Could this be your superpower?
4. What compliments do you ignore?
Too often we overlook our strengths. When you do something well on a reflective level, it's not noticeable. Therefore, listen carefully to compliments that you usually brush aside or ignore, because for you this skill seems banal and natural. Perhaps you hear some compliments so often that you are already sick of them! Why can't people praise you for something you've worked really, really hard at, trying so hard to do well?
This tendency to shrug off compliments is understandable, but the result is that you end up selling your real value at a deep discount. Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote: “In every work of genius we find our own rejected thoughts; they return to us with a certain aloof grandeur.” Don't think that if something is easy for you or seems obvious, then it can't be a rare and valuable skill for other people.
Do you sometimes hear such compliments? What superpowers are not included on your resume?
This way you can identify your clear strengths - that others do not succeed in the way that you do. Look for problems that you are particularly passionate about and apply these most powerful skills to them. published