Orthodoxy teaches that the will of God is the fulfillment of the commandments always and in any place. We often read in the lives of the saints how they prayed for a long time and performed feats, before making any decisions they tried to understand whether it would be pleasing to God. Please tell us what it means to surrender to the will of God when making any decisions, when choosing a life path.
I want to remind you once again that Orthodoxy differs from other confessions in that it proceeds from the patristic understanding of the answers to the questions that life offers us. Yes, many people are wondering how to act according to the will of God? Answer: “There is no virtue higher than reasoning,” said Anthony the Great, when three ascetics came to him and began to argue which virtue is the highest. One said that fasting, the second that prayer, the third that obedience. Anthony answered: “And by foolish fasting one can kill oneself, and by foolish obedience one can become slaves of men, and not God’s servant, and by prayer one can both ascend to heaven and fall into the abyss of pride and error.” Where there is no reason, there is no virtue. So, a person should always act according to reason and conscience. According to reason, based on the knowledge of the ideas of Christianity that he has, and according to conscience, since conscience is a subtle and living indicator of our actions, according to reason and conscience, and the intersection of these two lines gives the desired point. If a person does this, then at the same time, as Isaac the Syrian writes, we must say: “Lord, this is what my crazy reasoning says, this is what my very burned conscience says, but, Lord, Thy will be done, and not mine” . If a person sincerely turns to God with such a prayer and makes a decision in accordance with his understanding, then even if a person makes a mistake, God will correct it. Why? Yes, because he places sincere hope in God, and not in himself. Then the Providence of God takes place. It is especially important to rely on the will of God when people in prayers ask for some earthly things, for health, for external well-being. The Holy Fathers say: "If you can, don't ask God for anything." But sometimes we cannot help but ask, and even then ask like this: “Lord, You know what I want, but Thy will be done, Lord, and not mine.” Such an appeal to God can receive the most favorable, positive response. But when we insist, reject the Providence of God, the will of God, albeit with tears, but demand that it be our way, then, of course, we will not receive anything. Most people seem to be praying, asking for one thing, another, a third, and getting nothing. For two reasons. The first reason: they persistently ask God: “Give me this, Lord.” The second is that there is no faith. They ask and they don't believe. And so a person spends his whole life and remains without a fetus. The providence of God is accomplished when we surrender ourselves to the will of God, but not inactive: here I sit in an armchair and say: “Lord, I wish my garden would grow. ..". No, we must do what we can, but leave the results to the will of God. Here is the solution to the issue.
Many women ask themselves the question: "Are there stages in the development of femininity or stages? How to understand at what stage I am and where else should I go, strive?"
And having traced the stages of my development and the development of hundreds of women who come to me for consultations, I deduced the following main stages in the development of femininity:
Stage 1 - NEGATIVE.
Women at this stage deny their femininity. They deny the existence of problems in their personal lives or believe that it is not so important now. Now it’s not up to this, now it’s more important: study, work, career, relatives and so on. And the relationship will wait, the men, in the end, will not be transferred and the earth will not collapse if I do this later.
A few years ago, I thought so too.
A woman on this stage denies important role men and families in your life. More often in women, in view of this, a very low level of energy. At this stage, a woman does not understand what female energy, femininity, fulfillment, sexuality are. It is at this stage that all desires and goals are achieved through perseverance and work, at this stage a woman does not even suspect that she can get anything just with the help of requests and desires, it seems to her a fantasy. Next to such women are very weak or young men who are not yet ready to take responsibility and do not yet understand what they want from life. Here, as always in life, like attracts like!
Stage 2 - SEARCH FOR EXCUSES.
At this stage, the woman already begins to suspect that something is wrong. After all, she is surrounded by the wrong men and everything is given by labor and effort, while other women, on the contrary, are easy. She begins to read some articles about femininity, about relationships, begins to read about male psychology ... But so far nothing has come of it, neither after understanding male psychology, nor after reading the articles. Then she begins to attend the first trainings, which are aimed at studying men and male psychology. It seems that something begins to understand, something works, sometimes it turns out to manipulate a man, but then again everything returns to its place ... Yes, nothing changes inside, as it was lonely, dissatisfied, and remained. As there was a low level of energy, it remains. Despair begins ... But, here she begins to already notice that there are happy women who have relationships, who they love, who love themselves. And then, in order not to fall face down in the dirt, excuses begin like: "she's just lucky", "she's from a good family", "she's just a whore", "I come across goats"! At this stage, a woman does not yet take care of her condition, does not understand her emotions, the desires of her body. She is actively trying to find the causes of her unhappiness in the man himself. In external factors: men, parents are to blame, wrong body, wrong country, no teachers and role models. There are a lot of reasons and justifications for one's own misfortune!
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP:
Then at this stage you often quarrel with your man, perhaps the man is cheating on you, because he does not find in you the resource he needs.
I used to work with such women, now I don't. Moreover, if you come to my training, then most likely I will kick you out. It is for this reason that I am now making a tough selection for my trainings. Not because I don’t want to help you or I don’t like you, not at all, just because what I give you will not be clear at all, you just won’t hear what I show, and it will seem fantastic to you. I'm not one of those coaches who will argue and prove, I'm used to working with those "who are in the know." No fight.
Stage 3 - WORKING WITH FEARS
I start working with women already from this stage.
This category includes those who have already understood that the reason is not in external factors, but "IN ME"! I'm doing something wrong because I'm unhappy and not in a relationship or I don't satisfy my man. At this stage, women have already gone to trainings, have already tried to work with human behavior and realized that all this is useless as long as there is fear inside. Namely, what fears are realized here:
- Fear of relationships
- Fear of becoming weak, losing power, control
- Self-doubt
- Lack of understanding how to behave in relationships and what to do with them
- Fear of not being filled
- Fear of not giving a man what he needs
- Not knowing how to manage your energy
A woman is already starting to work on her fears, on generic scenarios, on her attitudes and blocks, which do not allow her to fully live! She is already clearly aware and accepts her emotions, after the first work with them!
Here, a woman already understands what energy is. She begins to take care of herself and increases her own energy level. It is already easier for men with her, they are already more interested, but they do not linger with her yet - they disappear, because she still does not know how to control her energy and femininity. If she is in a relationship, then she still quarrels with her man, but not as often as before. Her man is most often weak-character and not ambitious.
Stage 4 - Awareness
At this stage, a woman understands and, moreover, accepts herself. She begins to realize the power of her emotions, desires, to understand how goals and desires are achieved, on which the behavior of a man depends. There is an understanding of how to fill yourself with female energy, how to manage it. She already clearly feels when the energy becomes less and how to fill herself. A woman at this stage knows how to maintain a balance of TAKE-GIVE. She understands what energy exchange is and knows how to implement it. She begins to accept her body, her emotions, she begins to understand where certain diseases appeared on her body. She begins to thank and accept everything that happens in her life. Having lived in such awareness and love for herself for literally 3 months, she meets a loved one, because having completely fallen in love with herself, she MEETS A MAN WHO MIRRORS HER, and of course they fall in love!
IF SHE'S IN A RELATIONSHIP:
It becomes easier for a man with such a woman, he starts earning more, achieves more and sets ambitious goals for the future. He begins to do more for his woman, because he feels her value! This man feels himself much more satisfied, so interest in other women disappears.
Stage 5 - INCLUDING FEMININENESS
Here, if relationships are built in a new state, incredible sensations and complete acceptance of yourself and your partner come. You can track the condition and behavior of these women from the reviews they write to me, I openly post them on my social networks. networks (with their consent). In this state, women become very sensual and men are very comfortable, calm, comfortable with them. I want to be with them, I want to do for them! They begin to radiate love, tranquility, harmony and affection ... not only men, but also women begin to reach out to them. Because they are filled, and you want to be charged with this positive, lightness and love from them. They become so feminine, calm and light that men stick like crazy! Because an evening with such a woman will bring incredible success to a man in the future, such women, sitting next to a man, charge him, contribute to the release of testosterone, and he can do anything, he has no trouble with any difficulties! Very strong men are attracted to such women, because strong energy emanates from such women, GIVING men are attracted, who are able to thank for the energy that they were given!
Stage 6 - RELATIONSHIPS WITH A LOVED PERSON. BUILDING A FAMILY.
Here I think everything is clear! After the inclusion of femininity in a relationship, everything falls into place. A woman builds a full and happy family. And he passes on this knowledge and skills to his family, to his children. Naturally, in such a family, children grow up happy, with a healthy psyche, and retain their individuality.
Develop yourself, don't stop there! Fill up and inspire your man!
With love and respect for you,
Many people ask the question - are there any criteria for changing consciousness? How can you notice, determine that consciousness has changed, become different? Firstly, if you try to find changes in yourself every day or every week, then it is unlikely that you will find them, of course, unless some events have occurred that have greatly influenced the psyche. But, for example, if you look, try to remember yourself a year or two ago, then it is quite possible to notice changes. And the main, and in principle the only criterion for changing consciousness, will be a change in one's reaction to approximately the same situations, or standard situations. How much your perception has changed, tracking the moment when it has changed, how much and how your reactions to what is happening have changed, and so on. And of course, no guru or clairvoyant will help here. Only you yourself can know and see yourself, like no one else, the way you really are. Of course, in the absence of internal lies to oneself. This is if you answer the question "how". But there are other questions as well. For example, the question "why". Or - "for what". Why do you want to know about your changes. Of course, these questions can be answered - in order to understand how progressive my development is; to see if I'm changing or staying the same. Former - what? As I see it, a person wants to change from today’s self, if he doesn’t suit himself today in some way, doesn’t like himself (or not himself) in some way, or if he thinks that he needs to change, he must do for your development. There is also a third option - the feeling of the need for changes in oneself. All these options have different backgrounds, but they all have a place to be. Just try to look at yourself. Pay attention to your desire to see change. Where does this desire, this interest come from? Perhaps from self-assessment? Today's self and yesterday's self. Thinking about yourself and imagining your future self. But isn't the you of today the real you? It's who you are, who you are. And tomorrow this "you" will be who he is. And he will be in the future. And was in the past. Comparing yourself to yourself doesn't separate you? Does the need to change and evaluation, that is, the identification of ongoing changes, not divide you? Or maybe you are still one whole, whole person? With your mistakes, and, in your opinion, the right decisions. With his attentiveness, his "correctness", following his instincts and his recklessness. With only its "evil" and "good". And with only his vision of anything. And, perhaps, looking back, you will see not stupid or smart, bad or good, moving or stopping yourself, but multifaceted yourself. Multifaceted and whole. You will see, without dividing into periods and stages of life, a single self, and you will understand that there were no “stops in development” and wrong roads. There were no errors. All this is your and only your path, your life story. And whatever you are, for yourself or for those who evaluate you, you are a person, you are the brainchild of your soul. After all, every moment of your life passes under her vigilant vision, and under her guidance you. You have never been bad and you have never been good. You were and are who you are. Just listen and perceive the impulses that the soul sends to your consciousness. Whether you've changed or not doesn't really matter. Only one thing is important - you are, and you go, always. (c) Arina Beletskaya
It could have been more, but I forgot what else is there. ..It just so happened that for some time you will have to be here in a correctional facility (IS). Of course, this is not the best place to live, but there's nothing to be done, the court passed a sentence on you and determined the term: someone a year, someone two, someone more However, life does not stop there, and no matter where you are , we must always and everywhere remain people, live according to human rules.
Since you are punished and temporarily isolated from society, certain restrictions and prohibitions apply to you by law. You must clearly know what can and cannot be done here. To do this, you need to study the Criminal Executive Code of the Russian Federation (PEC RF) well and unquestioningly observe the Internal Rules of Correctional Institutions. The book that you now hold in your hands should help you quickly get used to the new, temporary conditions of life and more successfully prepare for liberation.
Good advice to you: respect yourself and others, do not commit rash acts! And keep in mind that the administration of the penitentiary is trying to help you. These people are absolutely not involved in what happened to you, as a result of which you ended up here. They are not your enemies, but they are fulfilling their own hard work to restore your good name. So try to solve this problem together with them!
Attention!
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To address the employees of the penitentiary and persons visiting the institution, one should use "You", calling "citizen", "citizen" and then - the rank or position. You can contact the penitentiary for minors by name and patronymic. You have to say hello when you get up. This is required by the Internal Regulations of the PS (paragraph 16).
And, of course, you must fulfill your duties, as already mentioned, and also not do what is prohibited by the Internal Regulations of the PS (paragraph 15) . In particular:
violate the borders of the territory of the PS;
go outside isolated areas without the permission of the administration, as well as stay in hostels in which you do not live;
smoking in places not designated for this;
apply tattoos;
use obscene and slang words, assign nicknames;
stay in sleeping places in the time not allotted for sleep without the permission of the administration;
keep animals and birds, breed ornamental fish and houseplants;
use homemade electrical appliances;
eat food in places not provided for this;
send and receive mail information bypassing the administration.
Appendix 1 to the Internal Regulations of the PS contains a list of things and items that are prohibited to be carried, received in parcels, transfers, parcels or purchased. These are: all types of weapons and ammunition; optical instruments, cameras and movie cameras; compasses; colored pencils, felt-tip pens, paints, ink; playing cards; money, valuables and some other items. If they are discovered by the administration of the penitentiary, they are confiscated and stored without the right to use them until they are released.
The rules of conduct, however, are not limited to official requirements, which are set out in regulatory documents and are heard from the mouths of representatives of the administration. There are also "informal rules" that you need to know in order not to fall under the influence of negatively minded convicts and their leaders.
I work for success. I like to experience success. I feel significant, respected and even loved. Everyone smiles at me, even those who are envious. And I become confident, witty and irresistible. For the sake of success, I am ready for a lot, a lot, almost everything ... Could you subscribe to these words?
Many men and women, especially under the age of 35, are puzzled by the question of how to become more successful. At the same time, everyone understands this task in their own way. Someone, for example, wants to achieve success in business and be successful with women. Another - to make a career, become famous, save a fortune. The third is to successfully marry, have children and settle in a country house. There are many formulas for success, books on the topic "How to become more successful", trainings that develop the ability to achieve. Achievement motivation is one of the priority areas of psychology. The psychology of success, personal effectiveness trainings are actively represented in the market of psychological and near-psychological services. Does everyone want to learn the formula for success, achieve it, become more successful?
How success works
Not every achievement is a success. Success has three characteristics.
1. Success is what I planned myself, the achievement of my dream or the realization of my plan. Not someone else's, mine. Of course, I can work on the overall result. But if I don’t see anything of my own in it, then most likely I will treat it as my help to another person (a team) or as a well-executed assignment. But not as a personal success.
2. Success is different from luck and luck. We consider success what is achieved as a result of our efforts, calculations, work. Moreover, a subtle psychological law is known: “The more labor and time something cost me, the higher the subjective value of the result for me.”
3. This is success for me, and this is the third feature of success. Success is very subjective: what is success for me may be failure for someone else. Whether the result will be a success, I determine myself. Psychologist Eric Berne believed that among people there are winners, non-winners and losers. The criterion is as follows: in life everyone sets tasks for himself, calculates how to become more successful. Based on this, at the end of life, you can sum up whether he achieved what he wanted. If you wanted and achieved - the winner. I wanted the best, but it turned out as always - a loser. I wanted to, but did not reach the goal, stopped halfway or one step away from it - a non-winner. According to this theory, a person who wanted to become president, but became prime minister, is just a non-winner. And the one who dreamed of raising three children and did it is the winner.
Components of success
One of the most important and non-obvious truths about how to become more successful is the following: a person cannot guarantee one hundred percent success. As long as we do something, we cannot be sure of anything. Only half of the success depends on our efforts and abilities. The second, little respected by arrogant people, is not subject to human will. In industrial relations, in business, talking about the latter is a bad form. Not everyone has the courage to accept that a person is not the creator of this world and some circumstances are beyond our control. And if so, one can only hope, wishing a fair wind or good luck. We can only prepare the conditions for success, try and learn how to become more successful, but we cannot guarantee anything. For success, no matter how you look at it, is the result of two components - diligence and luck.
The other side of success
Can I? What is my plank? Will I reach my limits? In other words, personal effectiveness is what a person constantly checks if he takes himself and his life seriously. Accomplishing the task of "become more successful" means that we not only accepted the challenge, but also proved to be worthy in the face of it. And if we cannot realize our projects, we feel bad. So bad that we begin to need a quick and bright success. And the worse our affairs are, the less satisfied we are with ourselves, the more success we need. And we are no longer so attentive to the choice of means, because we need success more and more.
For some people who have not experienced success for a long time (whether they actually had it or went unnoticed), the need for great success develops into the phenomenon of "waiting for a miracle." A person no longer hopes for himself, but he acutely feels that fate owes him a lot and justice can be restored only if a miracle happens. Therefore, he decides on an adventure, ceases to see the situation realistically, and it is so easy to deceive him.
Dependence on success is the surface part of the big problem. This is an example of a psychological addiction similar to a drug or alcohol addiction. But if drugs and alcohol are the lot of people with a weak will, then dependence on success is dangerous for hardworking and strong-willed people. As a rule, these are those who do not know how to fairly evaluate themselves. And he is looking for external evidence of his viability. For them, self-worth is determined by the external attributes of success: position, brand of car, belonging to the prestigious and accomplished. It is these people who come with their problem to the best psychotherapist, because they deserve the best.
Successful patient
Here he is - a respectable, ambitious and sometimes cynical man with money. He talks about emptiness, the crisis of the genre, depression. Sometimes this is presented as a midlife crisis: you have already proved everything to yourself, but you don’t know what’s next. Such people are very reserved in their feelings, so their favorite word is "discomfort". I work a lot, but the excitement is not the same. I am considered an outstanding and tough leader, but what is perceived from the outside as my charisma is a heavy burden from the inside: you need to meet expectations, radiate enthusiasm and confidence, carry your image.
These people have a lot, but they do not have a sense of happiness. They do not immediately manage to admit that they are constantly experiencing anxiety before failure, which they now cannot afford. Every year stress grows, tension from the fact that only a new task, more difficult than the previous one, fascinates - easy tasks have become boring.
Uncertainty in your own good attitude towards yourself, that you will not become an empty place if you remain without positions, you will lose your fortune, your beloved woman will leave ... A specific defense mechanism that masks this uncertainty is the need for one hundred percent control. Whether it's a job, a partner or a partner, children or fate - nothing should be left to chance or another person. Everything should be on a short leash.
Achieve success
But also be yourself! First, try to change your attitude towards success. Agree: there are forces that are not subject to anyone. An unfavorable set of circumstances can turn a fully prepared success into a failure. How our will and forces independent of us combine into favorable circumstances is still a miracle. We can not only change it, but also understand it. But the more we strive to promote this secret process, the more we disrupt it. What is the real recipe for success? How to become more successful and not lose freedom? Success refers to that amazing side of life, which includes joy, happiness, the gratitude of children and grandchildren, and that very deep feeling - fulfillment. But there is a detour leading to it. By all means trying to experience an orgasm, a person blocks its achievement. Determined to have fun tonight, a person will look tense. So is success: so that it becomes natural consequence our lives, we must pay attention to something more - the meaning of our lives. And then we can allow ourselves to be pleased with ourselves, justify ourselves and respect ourselves, even if we do not succeed. After all, we have worked hard for the sake of the value that we serve all our lives.